Is it my self esteem?

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The Penalty Box Dancer said:
No but I have to remember to do that because if I ejaculated in her then I would he so annoyed even though she tells me it'll be fine and its harder to get pregnant after 40
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don't ever take a woman's advice when she says "no its fine I can't get pregant/won't get pregnant/less chance of me getting pregnant"

9 months after that piece of gold you will have a little addition to the family.

regarding initial post mate, sounds like it's giving you a lot of stress mate so I would take stock of the situation and see if this is what you really want.

if your missus wants to go on holiday with her mates, great! push her out the front door and enjoy the one week break. Sounds like she has a routine that she likes and is unwilling to break so don't try and force the issue imo. Go on a lads holiday and she can't say anything and everyone's a winner.

regarding the dad thing, best way to look at it is hopefully you will be a positive influence on the child's life, her dad will also be a positive experience and between the 2 of you and her mum she will grow up with a lot of love and learn good values. I certainly wouldn't want to be harbouring feelings of hoping he would sod off unless he was having a negative impact on the child's upbringing.

good luck with everything though mate, I don't think there's any easy answer when it comes to relationships, you just gotta take the rough with the smooth, go through the bad days to enjoy the good and try your best to be the best you can be.
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
Now I am going to be brutally honest, I have a thing for older women, always have and to be going out with a woman over forty and having sex with this woman is fantastic, the older the better I say but we don't have much in common. We get on well and I have built a good relationship with her child, even though it annoys me that the child's Dad is still on the scene and her and him have to have contact with each other for their child, let's just say I have found it difficult and have wondered whether they will get back together again because they were once married and made a child together.

She has reassured me that won't happen and I need to let that thought go. Ok, I can deal with that, however I am often comparing myself to him and questioning whether I am better looking etc. But she says she loves me so I will take her word on that.

Right now, you are probably wondering what is the problem? Ok, I'll tell you, if the sex wasn't so good then I wouldn't be here in this situation that I often feel stressed out in. I sometimes have to deal with child tantrums and often ask myself what the hell am I doing? We have been together for over a year and I still haven't told my family about her. Why?

Preferably, I would want to be with someone who didn't have baggage and could give me more of their time but at the same time I feel like I have settled here and I tell my friends about her and how happy I am.

There's another thing that gets to me as well, she goes on holiday with her friends around June time each year and I don't have a problem with that, she goes away with me and her child on a family holiday but what my problem is, is I would rather her and me go on holiday together and develop as a couple rather than her going away with friends, we need to do more things as a couple but she says she likes going away with her friends. Am I wrong? Going away as a family is good but if she has the opportunity to have a holiday without her child then surely it should be with me?

I just feel like I am in a world of stress and life would probably so much easier if I was with someone more my age and who never had baggage, I just don't want to be on my own again for years and I do love the woman I am with even though I find it hard sometimes.
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Hi Wayne. You coming back to us in January?
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
It's not very often I post here, right now I feel like speaking about my self esteem as I really have nobody else to talk about with it. I think its my self esteem that's the problem anyway, maybe you can help me decide.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 14 months and she is 12 years older than me with a young child. Before I got with her I was on my own for about two and a half years and during this time I used to question myself and whether I was good enough for someone. I am in my early thirties and when I was younger I had no problem with women, I could pick and choose who I wanted, these days its like a different kettle of fish, it seems harder and women always seem to play uninterested, welcome to modern day life. Now I am going to be brutally honest, I have a thing for older women, always have and to be going out with a woman over forty and having sex with this woman is fantastic, the older the better I say but we don't have much in common. We get on well and I have built a good relationship with her child, even though it annoys me that the child's Dad is still on the scene and her and him have to have contact with each other for their child, let's just say I have found it difficult and have wondered whether they will get back together again because they were once married and made a child together.

She has reassured me that won't happen and I need to let that thought go. Ok, I can deal with that, however I am often comparing myself to him and questioning whether I am better looking etc. But she says she loves me so I will take her word on that.

Right now, you are probably wondering what is the problem? Ok, I'll tell you, if the sex wasn't so good then I wouldn't be here in this situation that I often feel stressed out in. I sometimes have to deal with child tantrums and often ask myself what the hell am I doing? We have been together for over a year and I still haven't told my family about her. Why?

Preferably, I would want to be with someone who didn't have baggage and could give me more of their time but at the same time I feel like I have settled here and I tell my friends about her and how happy I am.

There's another thing that gets to me as well, she goes on holiday with her friends around June time each year and I don't have a problem with that, she goes away with me and her child on a family holiday but what my problem is, is I would rather her and me go on holiday together and develop as a couple rather than her going away with friends, we need to do more things as a couple but she says she likes going away with her friends. Am I wrong? Going away as a family is good but if she has the opportunity to have a holiday without her child then surely it should be with me?

I just feel like I am in a world of stress and life would probably so much easier if I was with someone more my age and who never had baggage, I just don't want to be on my own again for years and I do love the woman I am with even though I find it hard sometimes.
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A year into the relationship and she still wants to have friends time?

It sounds to me as if this relationship is not right for you. if you don't want to play step dad and have an issue with her wanting to do her own thing then there isn't a future in it unfortunately. I remember when I got with Mrs ash and to be honest whilst she was pregnant I was still doing the single life things, thst packed in when my son was born but I needed to have that time to do my own thing before everything changed.

At her age and with a child she has been stuck with in not so many words with her ex leaving her/breaking up plus combined with any mid life crisis she would have off the back of it, just walk away if you don't feel it is right. Thinks aren't going to magically improve and her focus in life is going to be her child over you for a good while yet.

Don't mean to sound harsh, but that's the way I see it.
 
Ashtonian said:
A year into the relationship and she still wants to have friends time?

It sounds to me as if this relationship is not right for you. if you don't want to play step dad and have an issue with her wanting to do her own thing then there isn't a future in it unfortunately. I remember when I got with Mrs ash and to be honest whilst she was pregnant I was still doing the single life things, thst packed in when my son was born but I needed to have that time to do my own thing before everything changed.

At her age and with a child she has been stuck with in not so many words with her ex leaving her/breaking up plus combined with any mid life crisis she would have off the back of it, just walk away if you don't feel it is right. Thinks aren't going to magically improve and her focus in life is going to be her child over you for a good while yet.

Don't mean to sound harsh, but that's the way I see it.
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Ash, your crown is on the line here, what are you going to do about this??
 

The Penalty Box Dancer said:
Haha no it's more a case of "Do you want my baby? Hmm hmm? Do you want kids with me?
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The Penalty Box Dancer said:
No but I have to remember to do that because if I ejaculated in her then I would he so annoyed even though she tells me it'll be fine and its harder to get pregnant after 40
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You realise she can still get pregnant by swallowing jizz don't you? The pregnancy term is actually shorter with this method because the jizz goes straight to the stomach and bypasses the vagina. The jizz acts like an expanding foam to the stomach lining to give you that baby bump.

Enjoy fatherhood in 3 weeks Mick.
 

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