Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Totally love this thread purely because you guys are so honest and open.

I was going through depression just as this (thread) opened and missed out on all of us being 'men' and just being truthful.

Going through what I now see as being a mini crisis due to what went on before, but all the same could develop into something more.

Guys, please, please, please, open up on here.

It REALLY does help
 
efc_girl said:
Hey :) don't really feel as though I've got that mate that can come round and I can just vent to!! Everyone always seems to have their own problems and I am a good listener ha ha! I do love him and care about him a lot... as he does with me. I'm not head over heels in love with him... Am I supposed to be? Haha. I was just always happy and content with our set up. I don't know why doubts creep in and I worry that there should be something more. Happiness is all I seek :)
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Hey there- I'm a bit late to comment, sorry, but thought I'd add my bit in as a fellow female on here :) I think ultimately, it sounds (from what you're writing) that in this time apart perhaps you need to think about yourself as a person as well as a person in a relationship- if that makes sense? it reads a bit as if you're expecting your happiness to come from the way that he treats you/ reacts to you, which is definitely a recipe to be unhappy. I'm really sorry if that sounds harsh, I'm just trying to say (on half a cup of coffee, so I'm struggling here!), that perhaps you're placing too much emphasis on him in terms of what is going to make you happy- perhaps if you think about what you really want, how you see your life, what you need from a partner (rather than focusing on what is lacking), then you might be in a better position to sit down with him and articulate that, and see what his response is?

In my experience, doubts always creep in from time to time, I think that's just human nature, the challenge is for you (and only you can do this) to work out if it's because you genuinely do need/ want more, or because you as a couple are not communicating what you want/ need/ expect clearly, or that you are unhappy/ unsure for other reasons and are placing that on your partner.

I really hope you are able to figure out the right solution for yourself- after all, we're all seeking happiness :)
 
wbn61 said:
I have started opening up to my wife and my dad and it is quite hard. but I don't like worrying people so to others I say I'm fine thank you when asked how i'm doing. the sun is shining here and I might drag myself into the garden later to sit and try to get a tan.:)
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Hey there! At least the silver lining for this week is, it's October and you can still sit in the sun in the garden :) Hope you're doing ok today mister x
 
flippa said:
Hey there- I'm a bit late to comment, sorry, but thought I'd add my bit in as a fellow female on here :) I think ultimately, it sounds (from what you're writing) that in this time apart perhaps you need to think about yourself as a person as well as a person in a relationship- if that makes sense? it reads a bit as if you're expecting your happiness to come from the way that he treats you/ reacts to you, which is definitely a recipe to be unhappy. I'm really sorry if that sounds harsh, I'm just trying to say (on half a cup of coffee, so I'm struggling here!), that perhaps you're placing too much emphasis on him in terms of what is going to make you happy- perhaps if you think about what you really want, how you see your life, what you need from a partner (rather than focusing on what is lacking), then you might be in a better position to sit down with him and articulate that, and see what his response is?

In my experience, doubts always creep in from time to time, I think that's just human nature, the challenge is for you (and only you can do this) to work out if it's because you genuinely do need/ want more, or because you as a couple are not communicating what you want/ need/ expect clearly, or that you are unhappy/ unsure for other reasons and are placing that on your partner.

I really hope you are able to figure out the right solution for yourself- after all, we're all seeking happiness :)
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I think this is good advice. I know when I went to see a councillor she got me to focus on my own happiness. If you can be happy with yourself, and in your own skin, then that makes it easier to a)Be on your own and b)For others to like you.
 
kithnou said:
Can someone explain to me how we get so many quality individuals frequenting this thread when, if I may quote my man @tommye, it seems that the world is full of cockwombles around us?
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I think when it comes down to it: things get serious and people need support, then most people ditch their showy 'cockwomble-costume' and reveal their true character: which is normal, decent and helpful. Most people are, to be fair.
 
flippa said:
great... now I have "remember you're a cockWomble" running on a loop in my head!
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Oh dear, nobody deserves that.
Play a Spicegirls song, because they will shake all thoughts of music straight out of your head. They did for music what RedRum did for roses.

You're going to tell me now that you liked them, aren't you. Oops, am I in trouble?
 
tommye said:
There are some very very good people here. This thread can be extremely humbling to read. Best wishes to all who post here and keep fighting the good fight. Onwards and upwards. X
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You are correct @tommye, there are some very very good people on here.
In fact, All on here. Including yourself, goodsir.
Many a time I have read and digested the deep heartfelt advice, and even though not directed at me or even about me, I have found inner strength from the advice and empathy given.
 

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