Just don't be scared of life or women. They're not aliens. They want to have fun and they like sex too. I've said before that confidence is everything. I've had many girls tell me after the fact the thought I was cocky when they first met me. Yet that didn't turn them off (just the opposite) because I was fun to be around. Women don't want to be put on a pedestal (ask one if you don't believe me), they want you to provide that spark that brightens up their life, whether it's for a few hours or for the rest of their life. Personality is way more important than looks. That's the good news for us guys. Keep yourself well groomed and pay attention to the little things (teeth, breath, shoes, etc). Whatever age you are, work on being emotionally mature. Have your stuff together, have some ambition and work on being the kind of person that people want to be around (male and female).