Should i have offered the money and should it have been accepted?

[blue to the bone]

Crimbo innit.

We contemplated going out for dinner on Christmas Day this year, was working out just short of 3 ton for my son, my wife and I, one of them was for a 4 course meal and one of the courses was a mince pie. I don’t even like mince pie.

We’ve opted to have people round to ours instead, where I’ll cook. I’ve only charged £70 per person so I’m fairly reasonable.

You giving them a mince pie ?

 

[witchdoc187]

Ok lads I want some feed back to decide if i have done the right thing here and should a couple I am friends with accepted the money, apologies if this is a little long winded. A couple were paying for our Christmas lunch at a nice hotel near where we live., the wife of the couple told myself & my Mrs they wanted to pay for it at a cost of £180 which was very nice of them, so just under £90 each. They were also paying for 2 other lads who are friends of mine that were going too, 3 out of the 4 of us are Irish living in the UK and we (Myself the Mrs and the 2 lads) always have Christmas lunch out together since getting to know each other but last year with covid we had it with this couple in their home who we would all be friendly with and we have got to know them since moving over to the UK.
Anyway one of the lads decided to go home for Christmas, he had not been home in 7 years for Christmas, So last week he went and told the wife in the couple who were paying for the meals, that he had got Christmas off late and decided he would go home for it, long story short she was not too happy and made a comment to me about how these meals cost money the following day. So with all this covid about at the moment i got cold feet myself at the weekend and not wanting to fall out with the couple I went down and told them face to face that myself and my Mrs would not be going to the hotel for Christmas day lunch but i said i would give/offer them the £180 back, basically the cost of myself and the Mrs meal on Christmas day, it was taken by them, fair enough i offered it but I was just thinking after was i right to offer? I actually think I was but I believe if i offered to pay for a meal for somebody else I know I would not have accepted it. Just wondering what are others opinion on this?

Yeah you should have paid. Missed out on the dogging too. Fail

 

[Nymzee]

Think it's £45 for just the tip.

Just the tip? I’m not coughing up unless I can go all the way

 

[The binman chronicles]

If people say they are going to do something, unless there is a 100% valid excuse not to go, then you should go. If you had doubts about going then think that through beforehand and don't accept the invite.

Also it's one thing paying something for someone and know it's worthwhile due to the happiness and the company that brings (presumably they didn't want to be alone that day?) and completely another paying out for nothing. The latter would tend to wind up anyone.

 

[Bazlar]

Crimbo innit.

We contemplated going out for dinner on Christmas Day this year, was working out just short of 3 ton for my son, my wife and I, one of them was for a 4 course meal and one of the courses was a mince pie. I don’t even like mince pie.

We’ve opted to have people round to ours instead, where I’ll cook. I’ve only charged £70 per person so I’m fairly reasonable.

Season of goodwill and all that. Mingebag

 

[Bazlar]

Ok lads I want some feed back to decide if i have done the right thing here and should a couple I am friends with accepted the money, apologies if this is a little long winded. A couple were paying for our Christmas lunch at a nice hotel near where we live., the wife of the couple told myself & my Mrs they wanted to pay for it at a cost of £180 which was very nice of them, so just under £90 each. They were also paying for 2 other lads who are friends of mine that were going too, 3 out of the 4 of us are Irish living in the UK and we (Myself the Mrs and the 2 lads) always have Christmas lunch out together since getting to know each other but last year with covid we had it with this couple in their home who we would all be friendly with and we have got to know them since moving over to the UK.
Anyway one of the lads decided to go home for Christmas, he had not been home in 7 years for Christmas, So last week he went and told the wife in the couple who were paying for the meals, that he had got Christmas off late and decided he would go home for it, long story short she was not too happy and made a comment to me about how these meals cost money the following day. So with all this covid about at the moment i got cold feet myself at the weekend and not wanting to fall out with the couple I went down and told them face to face that myself and my Mrs would not be going to the hotel for Christmas day lunch but i said i would give/offer them the £180 back, basically the cost of myself and the Mrs meal on Christmas day, it was taken by them, fair enough i offered it but I was just thinking after was i right to offer? I actually think I was but I believe if i offered to pay for a meal for somebody else I know I would not have accepted it. Just wondering what are others opinion on this?

Invite them to your gaff

 

[Terrarian]

Where are you eating a Michelin star joint for that price I hope.

If they've already paid and can't get their money back then yes you should pay.

 

[ArtetaMoney]

You giving them a mince pie ?

It’s a 5 course meal, 1 is a mince pie, 1 a coffee and 1 a cracker.

 

[ArtetaMoney]

Season of goodwill and all that. Mingebag

I was joking, it’s £75 really.

 

[welshtoffee]

BENITEZ OUT !!!!!!

 

[Zatara]

@Rogue Trader

1: 2 people offered to pay for meals for 4 people.

2: They had to pay upfront £90 a head

3: One of the 4 went to Ireland leaving the couple £90 out of pocket after being extremely ungrateful and rude.

4: You and your mrs decided not to go so left them another £180 out of pocket meaning theyre down £270.

You refunded the £180 to them so they are now down £90.

So this nice generous couple paid for and reserved the meals, everyones let them down for XMAS...

...and youre asking if you should have not refunded the money???

Jesus.

 

[AsiaAsia82]

We’re they getting a free meal if 6 people turned up?
Maybe the guy who went to Ireland should of paid also.
I think if they’ve booked it with your agreement you should pay. If they’ve only paid a deposit, then maybe that’s all that was needed

 

[Dddddd]

@Rogue Trader

1: 2 people offered to pay for meals for 4 people.

2: They had to pay upfront £90 a head

3: One of the 4 went to Ireland leaving the couple £90 out of pocket after being extremely ungrateful and rude.

4: You and your mrs decided not to go so left them another £180 out of pocket meaning theyre down £270.

You refunded the £180 to them so they are now down £90.

So this nice generous couple paid for and reserved the meals, everyones let them down for XMAS...

...and youre asking if you should have not refunded the money???

Jesus.

Absolutely this

The poor couple

Larry let downs do my nut in

 

[arch stanton]

I'm available mate, are any of them 'easy on the eye'?

 

[cronullasharks]

@Rogue Trader

1: 2 people offered to pay for meals for 4 people.

2: They had to pay upfront £90 a head

3: One of the 4 went to Ireland leaving the couple £90 out of pocket after being extremely ungrateful and rude.

4: You and your mrs decided not to go so left them another £180 out of pocket meaning theyre down £270.

You refunded the £180 to them so they are now down £90.

So this nice generous couple paid for and reserved the meals, everyones let them down for XMAS...

...and youre asking if you should have not refunded the money???

Jesus.

Not one mention of some woman you've claimed to have shagged. Disappointed here.