Is it my self esteem?

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So many questions to answer:

It can only be for either me or her Dad. I am going to ask if she is buying her ex a present from the baby even though they have never done this before. I wasn't rooting through her drawers, it was basically underneath where my t-shirts are so I couldn't miss it.

I have rooted in the past and found a box of old photographs, of her over the years and some holiday pictures so here is what happened.

She wasn't home when I found these pictures but seeing pics of her and her ex broke my heart but I had to hold it together. She came home from work and I somehow slipped the topic of photographs in conversation which led me to saying "Shall we have a look at those old photos of you? Where are they again? Are they in here?" I got the box out and started going through them, she was a bit hasty but got into the mood saying things like "oh look at me on this" I then dug deeper and found their wedding photos but as I opened them I couldn't hold my emotion and just let it all out in a rage, she got moody as well and we argued over them. She said she didn't know they were in there as it has been years so I said you divorced him years ago why are they still there? She said she forgot about them and guess what? It has been about 2 months and she still hasn't got round to removing them. Am I being a bit hasty?
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
So many questions to answer:

It can only be for either me or her Dad. I am going to ask if she is buying her ex a present from the baby even though they have never done this before. I wasn't rooting through her drawers, it was basically underneath where my t-shirts are so I couldn't miss it.

I have rooted in the past and found a box of old photographs, of her over the years and some holiday pictures so here is what happened.

She wasn't home when I found these pictures but seeing pics of her and her ex broke my heart but I had to hold it together. She came home from work and I somehow slipped the topic of photographs in conversation which led me to saying "Shall we have a look at those old photos of you? Where are they again? Are they in here?" I got the box out and started going through them, she was a bit hasty but got into the mood saying things like "oh look at me on this" I then dug deeper and found their wedding photos but as I opened them I couldn't hold my emotion and just let it all out in a rage, she got moody as well and we argued over them. She said she didn't know they were in there as it has been years so I said you divorced him years ago why are they still there? She said she forgot about them and guess what? It has been about 2 months and she still hasn't got round to removing them. Am I being a bit hasty?
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Genuine tears streaming down my face at this
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
So many questions to answer:

It can only be for either me or her Dad. I am going to ask if she is buying her ex a present from the baby even though they have never done this before. I wasn't rooting through her drawers, it was basically underneath where my t-shirts are so I couldn't miss it.

I have rooted in the past and found a box of old photographs, of her over the years and some holiday pictures so here is what happened.

She wasn't home when I found these pictures but seeing pics of her and her ex broke my heart but I had to hold it together. She came home from work and I somehow slipped the topic of photographs in conversation which led me to saying "Shall we have a look at those old photos of you? Where are they again? Are they in here?" I got the box out and started going through them, she was a bit hasty but got into the mood saying things like "oh look at me on this" I then dug deeper and found their wedding photos but as I opened them I couldn't hold my emotion and just let it all out in a rage, she got moody as well and we argued over them. She said she didn't know they were in there as it has been years so I said you divorced him years ago why are they still there? She said she forgot about them and guess what? It has been about 2 months and she still hasn't got round to removing them. Am I being a bit hasty?
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Bellend
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
So many questions to answer:

It can only be for either me or her Dad. I am going to ask if she is buying her ex a present from the baby even though they have never done this before. I wasn't rooting through her drawers, it was basically underneath where my t-shirts are so I couldn't miss it.

I have rooted in the past and found a box of old photographs, of her over the years and some holiday pictures so here is what happened.

She wasn't home when I found these pictures but seeing pics of her and her ex broke my heart but I had to hold it together. She came home from work and I somehow slipped the topic of photographs in conversation which led me to saying "Shall we have a look at those old photos of you? Where are they again? Are they in here?" I got the box out and started going through them, she was a bit hasty but got into the mood saying things like "oh look at me on this" I then dug deeper and found their wedding photos but as I opened them I couldn't hold my emotion and just let it all out in a rage, she got moody as well and we argued over them. She said she didn't know they were in there as it has been years so I said you divorced him years ago why are they still there? She said she forgot about them and guess what? It has been about 2 months and she still hasn't got round to removing them. Am I being a bit hasty?
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She kept photos of her holidays too?
Bloody hell, it almost like she enjoyed them and wanted to keep the memories.

She's rubbing your nose in it there mate.
 

I understand she has a past like we all do but where do you draw the line? She often tells he was a mistake and she regrets marrying him but was caught in the moment. I can't argue with her past as she didn't know me then but it still gets to me knowing he still has a role to play in her life
 
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I understand she has a past like we all do but where do you draw the line? She often tells he was a mistake and she regrets marrying him but was caught in the moment. I can't argue with her past as she didn't know me then but it still gets to me knowing he still has a role to play in her life
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Tried Mumsnet?

We found it a great source of solace and support once.
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
I understand she has a past like we all do but where do you draw the line? She often tells he was a mistake and she regrets marrying him but was caught in the moment. I can't argue with her past as she didn't know me then but it still gets to me knowing he still has a role to play in her life
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Why do you think she has to justify any past relationship to you?
 

If you have to come onto a public forum, to ask a bunch of strangers what to do you've found your answer.

You can't trust her, so you can't be with her.
 
The Penalty Box Dancer said:
So many questions to answer:

It can only be for either me or her Dad. I am going to ask if she is buying her ex a present from the baby even though they have never done this before. I wasn't rooting through her drawers, it was basically underneath where my t-shirts are so I couldn't miss it.

I have rooted in the past and found a box of old photographs, of her over the years and some holiday pictures so here is what happened.

She wasn't home when I found these pictures but seeing pics of her and her ex broke my heart but I had to hold it together. She came home from work and I somehow slipped the topic of photographs in conversation which led me to saying "Shall we have a look at those old photos of you? Where are they again? Are they in here?" I got the box out and started going through them, she was a bit hasty but got into the mood saying things like "oh look at me on this" I then dug deeper and found their wedding photos but as I opened them I couldn't hold my emotion and just let it all out in a rage, she got moody as well and we argued over them. She said she didn't know they were in there as it has been years so I said you divorced him years ago why are they still there? She said she forgot about them and guess what? It has been about 2 months and she still hasn't got round to removing them. Am I being a bit hasty?
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if you cant trust her then its game over. she'd have to be seriously crap at pullin wool over your eyes if they were in easy reach. move on or get to deal with the situation. it aint gonna change
 

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