The difference in the rugby ananolgy is that when kids are starting out playing they are not allowed talk to the ref in a derogatory way, also the same goes for the parents on the sideline so there is no culture of it at all. If you go down to the local park of a Saturday you regularly see 8 & 9 year olds abusing refs.
The most common sense and easily incorporated rule would be that all communication is done between ref and captain. If another player tires to talk to the ref he is told to go away, he gets binned for ten mins if he continues.
Bring that rule in and problem solved overnight of teams trying to aggressively influence the ref.