A few points from that...
1. I'm only disagreeing with you, I'm not some simpleton who just can't understand.
2. You started off talking about Spurs controlling the post game narrative with their (cringey, poor taste) hourly updates in the well being of poor lickle Son. A narrative that, whilst I disagree with, I really don't see as having any impact on Everton football club. Maybe Gomes doesn't want to be used as a prop and just wants to crack on quietly with recovery. In any event jumping up and down shouting "we're the real victims!" is all a bit... Kopitey. I don;t care about narratives or how the story gets told in the press.
3. I genuinely don't believe referees are sat at home in the week thinking "I know I have to give a bad decision against somebody... But who?! Oh! I know! Everton! They won't kick up a stink!" Officals are incompetent rather than corrupt.
4. Let's say we do stamp our feet and cry about penalties given and not given by VAR over the last few weeks... What's the consequence? Do we get any points for it? Are the refs really thinking about the headlines when they're reviewing decisions? In my view it just becomes a distraction from the players performances and fosters a victim mentality.
In respect of Everton saying nothing, Spurs did control the post-game narrative. And for the record, I never referred to their updates as hourly, nor cringey or poor taste, those are your words.
I also don't feel any need whatsoever for Gomes to be 'used'. He and the club have been public in their statements on the operation and thanks for messages of support, that's fine, no issue whatsoever with that.
And it isn't so much a case of shouting 'we're the victims' and clearly highlighting and elevating the issues over not one but multiple poor decisions that just happen to have impacted upon us in the two most recent games.
The one thing I will entirely and unreservedly agree with you, and this is the nub of my posts, is that too many officials are incompetent... And that's now being compounded by incompetent use of VAR.
If I insinuated you're a simpleton, I didn't mean to so accept my apology if you read my comments that way.
Bottom line is, I am fed up with and tired of our club not standing up for itself.