Thanks people for wondering how I am. I'm still here, but struggling a bit. I've got through some practicalities, I've claimed for UC and I have a car being delivered tomorrow - a 20-year old Ford SportKA for £1500, but it will keep me mobile, and I've paid for it and got a good insurance policy sorted out in advance - but today the emotional side hit me like a ton of bricks.
I've had a bit of a wobble this evening, and I'm not ashamed to say it. I'm without a car until tomorrow which has affected my mind more than it should - the Motability car, which was one of the strongest links to Janet, being driven away was a massively triggering moment. At least i get the new one tomorrow, and it's all paid for, so that's a relief, but it's emotion rather than practicality which has floored me more today. The big trigger this evening was that I was looking at the Sky TV account to see about whether to cancel or just reduce it, and when I signed in it came up with a stark: 'Hello Janet', as she was the account holder, and it just set me off. I took off for a walk to the shops to clear my head and get some bread, but it got worse as I walked. Idiotic thoughts which I have never given credence to before came to me, such as 'if there is such a thing as contacting loved ones after they depart, is she a restless spirit with not having been able to tell me about the money?'. I was annoyed with myself for even going there, as a logical person, but it wouldn't quit. I was thinking about all the things in her name that I have to transfer and take over, and I just didn't feel as if I had the strength or the will to lift that weight. I was so bad when I got in that I had to call a friend and just vent for ten minutes. It's at these moments when I get that feeling again that I just don't have the will to carry on. I know it will pass, but tonight has been a particularly bad hit. The life I had only a month ago seems to have belonged to someone else... Someone who won't come back...