Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[Benicetoourboys]

that’s good that’s one part mate

hopefully all the rest will also

carry on being a good person mate x

Matty, can I just say you're a very nice person.

 

[BiggyRat]

What's it all about Alfie ? I sometimes wonder what's the point ; in the eon of the existence of the universe what does my tiny pin prick of existence matter ? Bugger all if all told. Not an original thought I grant you. I know the usual reasons : people would miss you ; think of the children ! etc, etc, but really they are platitudes used by by the living, not the departed.

See a doctor ? Pills, pills and more pills ; referred to an overworked psychiatrist in 6 months time, more platitudes, investigate my psyche, more simplistic solutions - get out more, meet new people, were my parents unfeeling ? All words really in the grand scheme of things. Circumstances dictate outcomes, and rarely can they change.

Should really start a metaphysical thread.

I think we all serve a purpose.

The purpose being the progression of the species. Our part in that varies drastically but for every Einstein, there’s a long list of ancestors with multitudes of life experiences that led to E=MC2!

Melodramatic? Sure. But we’re here for a reason & it’s just too easy to be dismissive of what that reason is.

Hang in there & be the best “You” that you can be.

 

[Bryan+]

This is very much tongue in cheek but very much how it feels in today’s world.

 

[COYBL25]

Matty, can I just say you're a very nice person.

The best.

 

[Spotty]

Can I add that the discussions about helping you deal with your anxiety, depression etc and what works etc are really beneficial and helpful. I've always encouraged the people I work with to take their psychotropic medications as prescribed, however, the one thing I also ALWAYS encourage, is physical exercise. The evidence base for it being beneficial and therapeutic is overwhelming, nee universally agreed upon. If your overweight and can't run or walk for example, go for a swim. The release of "feel good" endorphins is well documented following exercise. Everyone can can "do a little", honestly, EVERYONE. You can get prescribed exercise where you can get gym membership free, free swimming lessons etc if you meet the criteria.

Please everyone, give the exercise a chance, regardless. You can get help in starting and it can be life changing.

 

[Daveysgingerlovechild]

What's it all about Alfie ? I sometimes wonder what's the point ; in the eon of the existence of the universe what does my tiny pin prick of existence matter ? Bugger all if all told. Not an original thought I grant you. I know the usual reasons : people would miss you ; think of the children ! etc, etc, but really they are platitudes used by by the living, not the departed.

See a doctor ? Pills, pills and more pills ; referred to an overworked psychiatrist in 6 months time, more platitudes, investigate my psyche, more simplistic solutions - get out more, meet new people, were my parents unfeeling ? All words really in the grand scheme of things. Circumstances dictate outcomes, and rarely can they change.

Should really start a metaphysical thread.

Can I add that the discussions about helping you deal with your anxiety, depression etc and what works etc are really beneficial and helpful. I've always encouraged the people I work with to take their psychotropic medications as prescribed, however, the one thing I also ALWAYS encourage, is physical exercise. The evidence base for it being beneficial and therapeutic is overwhelming, nee universally agreed upon. If your overweight and can't run or walk for example, go for a swim. The release of "feel good" endorphins is well documented following exercise. Everyone can can "do a little", honestly, EVERYONE. You can get prescribed exercise where you can get gym membership free, free swimming lessons etc if you meet the criteria.

Please everyone, give the exercise a chance, regardless. You can get help in starting and it can be life changing.

Social connection, purpose/feeling useful, and exercise are really important.

I'll give you an example of it all knitting together. Rather than sitting around watching films I decided to use the time off to go swimming. It is therapeutic in its own right, of course. Got chatting to a lad who wanted to know how I swim so well (his words not mine). Spent some time going through stroke technique and breathing for the freestyle.

The first time in ages I felt like I'd done something useful or genuinely helpful. I'd normally be rushing through a swim trying to fit it into everything else.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Can I add that the discussions about helping you deal with your anxiety, depression etc and what works etc are really beneficial and helpful. I've always encouraged the people I work with to take their psychotropic medications as prescribed, however, the one thing I also ALWAYS encourage, is physical exercise. The evidence base for it being beneficial and therapeutic is overwhelming, nee universally agreed upon. If your overweight and can't run or walk for example, go for a swim. The release of "feel good" endorphins is well documented following exercise. Everyone can can "do a little", honestly, EVERYONE. You can get prescribed exercise where you can get gym membership free, free swimming lessons etc if you meet the criteria.

Please everyone, give the exercise a chance, regardless. You can get help in starting and it can be life changing.

Every morning I go for a walk in my local park when the sun comes up. It's always quiet and you can listen to the birds, see the changing colours, and just be alone with your thoughts. The exercise and sunshine (certainly in winter) also really help get the day off to a good start. I generally take a bag and pick up some litter as I walk as well.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

Have you guys seen the documentary from the England rugby team? Unbreakable. It's a really good look into the mental health side of things (although I thought it a bit sad that they didn't say anything about how Tuigamala sorted Jason Robinson out when he was at Wigan).

 

[COYBL25]

Every morning I go for a walk in my local park when the sun comes up. It's always quiet and you can listen to the birds, see the changing colours, and just be alone with your thoughts. The exercise and sunshine (certainly in winter) also really help get the day off to a good start. I generally take a bag and pick up some litter as I walk as well.

You`re a bit bit vulnerable to assassination by geriatric members of the Gardeners Guild at that time and alone in the park.

If you happen to see an old fella wearing a " MAKE DYSON GREAT AGAIN " baseball cap, run like hell.

 

[Bruce Wayne]

You`re a bit bit vulnerable to assassination by geriatric members of the Gardeners Guild at that time and alone in the park.

If you happen to see an old fella wearing a " MAKE DYSON GREAT AGAIN " baseball cap, run like hell.

Knowing Joe, I suspect running would be overkill. A slightly faster walk would suffice. Hopefully after Joe has chased me around the park for a bit, his wife will come out shouting "screw you [Poor language removed]"

 

[anjelikaferrett]

Can I add that the discussions about helping you deal with your anxiety, depression etc and what works etc are really beneficial and helpful. I've always encouraged the people I work with to take their psychotropic medications as prescribed, however, the one thing I also ALWAYS encourage, is physical exercise. The evidence base for it being beneficial and therapeutic is overwhelming, nee universally agreed upon. If your overweight and can't run or walk for example, go for a swim. The release of "feel good" endorphins is well documented following exercise. Everyone can can "do a little", honestly, EVERYONE. You can get prescribed exercise where you can get gym membership free, free swimming lessons etc if you meet the criteria.

Please everyone, give the exercise a chance, regardless. You can get help in starting and it can be life changing.

As a lifelong dedicated couch potato with the co-ordination of a slightly inebriated octopus, can I just agree with this. Ive been a gym member for years, with a PT, ( a very small welcoming gym that my daughter persuaded me to join with her) and I absolutely hated every second of it. I only kept going because my daughter enjoyed the PT sessions and I reckoned they must do me some good- but I still hated it, leg presses, squats, pushing some sledge like thing with weights on - literally made me cry. Anyway , daughter got pregnant so stopped going and I joined Bannatynes so I could go swimming. I now swim three times a week, do aqua aerobics, use the cardio machines if I feel like it, and have even tried yoga (the jury is still out on that) . Guess what? I really enjoy it, my mood lifts, I feel fitter and miss it if I don't go. Never ever thought I would reach that stage. It has probably taken 40 years of failure at any kind of sporting activity to get here but it is worth it.

 

[SJB]

Matty, can I just say you're a very nice person.

He really is. He's that bit of daft we all need in our lives to lift our spirits, a proper lovely fella.

 

[Spotty]

As a lifelong dedicated couch potato with the co-ordination of a slightly inebriated octopus, can I just agree with this. Ive been a gym member for years, with a PT, ( a very small welcoming gym that my daughter persuaded me to join with her) and I absolutely hated every second of it. I only kept going because my daughter enjoyed the PT sessions and I reckoned they must do me some good- but I still hated it, leg presses, squats, pushing some sledge like thing with weights on - literally made me cry. Anyway , daughter got pregnant so stopped going and I joined Bannatynes so I could go swimming. I now swim three times a week, do aqua aerobics, use the cardio machines if I feel like it, and have even tried yoga (the jury is still out on that) . Guess what? I really enjoy it, my mood lifts, I feel fitter and miss it if I don't go. Never ever thought I would reach that stage. It has probably taken 40 years of failure at any kind of sporting activity to get here but it is worth it.

Great post, nice one

 

[Spotty]

Social connection, purpose/feeling useful, and exercise are really important.

I'll give you an example of it all knitting together. Rather than sitting around watching films I decided to use the time off to go swimming. It is therapeutic in its own right, of course. Got chatting to a lad who wanted to know how I swim so well (his words not mine). Spent some time going through stroke technique and breathing for the freestyle.

The first time in ages I felt like I'd done something useful or genuinely helpful. I'd normally be rushing through a swim trying to fit it into everything else.

And you helped someone, great for self esteem. Good man

 

[Jamo Martinez]

Just letting off steam - dealing with aged Mother (89) with need for hip revision after a 3rd dislocation & some dementia along for the ride, we limp along to doing the right thing surgically for her. I feel so terrible for her - my sister / her daughter passed away earlier this year and my mother is locked in memories about her while we twiddle thumbs for issues at the margin.....

Sorry to hear this mate. Recently lost my sister (I'm flying to England on Thursday for the funeral).
You're dealing with your mum's physical and mental problems aswell as her grief. All while processing your own grief.
Don't neglect your own process mate. You'll be more use to your mum if you look after yourself.

Hope the revision goes well.