Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues


Does anyone on here had any experience of dealing with a family member diagnosed with CFS/ME (cronic fatigue syndrome)?.
I live with my 27 year old daughter who has had to live with this for the last 2 years and there is absolutely no treatment for the illness. She is unable to work full-time as she only has a small amount of energy in a day.
My worry is that when I'm gone ( I'm 70)who will be there to look after her when she gets worse.
I would die tomorrow if i give her health back

I think my wife may be suffering with this but we aren't really sure.

Her GP believes she may have fibromyalgia which amongst other things seems to cause fatigue, pain and anxiety.

My wife is also unable to work full time and currently does 3 days a week.

Does your daughter manage to sleep okay? My wife also seems to struggle with sleep, I don't know if you'd call it insomnia but the pain makes if hard for her to get a good night's sleep which makes the fatigue worse and in turn impacts on her pain.
 
I think my wife may be suffering with this but we aren't really sure.

Her GP believes she may have fibromyalgia which amongst other things seems to cause fatigue, pain and anxiety.

My wife is also unable to work full time and currently does 3 days a week.

Does your daughter manage to sleep okay? My wife also seems to struggle with sleep, I don't know if you'd call it insomnia but the pain makes if hard for her to get a good night's sleep which makes the fatigue worse and in turn impacts on her pain.
I think she sleeps ok but even so can still wake up exhausted.
There is very little help out there as even GPs don't seem to fully understand it.
In many cases people dismiss this condition even family members.
Unless you actually have CFS/ME or live with a sufferer it is hard to understand the problem.
I hope your wife's condition improves but in the meantime you just have to be supportive and help her through.
She had a GP who actually suggested that she moved to New Zealand for a better climate and suggested taking up a hobby to make her life less worthless.
 
I think she sleeps ok but even so can still wake up exhausted.
There is very little help out there as even GPs don't seem to fully understand it.
In many cases people dismiss this condition even family members.
Unless you actually have CFS/ME or live with a sufferer it is hard to understand the problem.
I hope your wife's condition improves but in the meantime you just have to be supportive and help her through.
She had a GP who actually suggested that she moved to New Zealand for a better climate and suggested taking up a hobby to make her life less worthless.

Moving to New Zealand you say? Now why didn't I think of that?!

Joking aside it has been difficult to get support. I just do what I can to support her day by day.

Lately I have suggested to her we try to get treatment for the pain or try to identify what the root cause of it is. Hoping that if her pain eases then other symptoms might improve.
 
I think she sleeps ok but even so can still wake up exhausted.
There is very little help out there as even GPs don't seem to fully understand it.
In many cases people dismiss this condition even family members.
Unless you actually have CFS/ME or live with a sufferer it is hard to understand the problem.
I hope your wife's condition improves but in the meantime you just have to be supportive and help her through.
She had a GP who actually suggested that she moved to New Zealand for a better climate and suggested taking up a hobby to make her life less worthless.
Might be worth further investigation.
 

... She had a GP who actually suggested that she moved to New Zealand for a better climate ...
I can attest to this.
My Grandad (The reason I'm Blue) was poorly & the prognosis wasn't good. Heart, lungs, you name it. So, he came out to visit my Mum & the local family back in 63. These were the days of sailing of course, so they spent the better part of a year traveling & visiting us.
Long story short, he gave himself an extra 12 years, only passing in 75! They attributed it to his time here & the clean air & warm climate.
We're almost in Winter but it was 17C today & not a cloud in the sky.
I'm sorry I can't help with anything else, but this suggestion is valid as far as I'm concerned.

All the best. ;)
 
Pretty sure I just got hate crime’d. Was chatting to another Irish fella (who turned out to be a Orange Lodge guy) in a bar and the below happened

“Where are ye family from?”

“Wexford”

“Ah so you’re a dirty Taig”

Mental - never had that before but it felt proper grim and dehumanising especially when everyone laughed and was like ”ah he’s just an older feller”
 
Pretty sure I just got hate crime’d. Was chatting to another Irish fella (who turned out to be a Orange Lodge guy) in a bar and the below happened

“Where are ye family from?”

“Wexford”

“Ah so you’re a dirty Taig”

Mental - never had that before but it felt proper grim and dehumanising especially when everyone laughed and was like ”ah he’s just an older feller”
My family are from Wexford. What does he mean? Never heard it.
 
Pretty sure I just got hate crime’d. Was chatting to another Irish fella (who turned out to be a Orange Lodge guy) in a bar and the below happened

“Where are ye family from?”

“Wexford”

“Ah so you’re a dirty Taig”

Mental - never had that before but it felt proper grim and dehumanising especially when everyone laughed and was like ”ah he’s just an older feller”
I’ve heard it used but never as a slur, it was defo a scouse thing for me growing up (I never used it to be clear but defo heard it)
 

Starting back at the gym on Thursday as I've been told it can help with a bout of anxiety that I've been suffering with of late. I've managed to find a nice little down-to-earth gym which isn't filled with the "body beautifuls" that would make my anxiety worse. I've got a target in mind for August time when I'm due to have a big family get together for my Dad's 75th.
 
Starting back at the gym on Thursday as I've been told it can help with a bout of anxiety that I've been suffering with of late. I've managed to find a nice little down-to-earth gym which isn't filled with the "body beautifuls" that would make my anxiety worse. I've got a target in mind for August time when I'm due to have a big family get together for my Dad's 75th.

Having a date will help keep motivation mate 👍
 
Pretty sure I just got hate crime’d. Was chatting to another Irish fella (who turned out to be a Orange Lodge guy) in a bar and the below happened

“Where are ye family from?”

“Wexford”

“Ah so you’re a dirty Taig”

Mental - never had that before but it felt proper grim and dehumanising especially when everyone laughed and was like ”ah he’s just an older feller”
Rise over it lad. The Irish have a brutal sense of humour and by God sometimes it’s intended as it was delivered.

No matter. I start my day with a plan what to do and once I get home, not a single word that was said to me changed that I’m home in my safe spot. Don’t let anyone have the bad day, or bigotry, impact on you.
 
Rise over it lad. The Irish have a brutal sense of humour and by God sometimes it’s intended as it was delivered.

No matter. I start my day with a plan what to do and once I get home, not a single word that was said to me changed that I’m home in my safe spot. Don’t let anyone have the bad day, or bigotry, impact on you.
To be fair the guy wasn’t trying to be funny, but a day or so later I saw the funny side of this 60 odd year old guy randomly yelling at my 6’7” self while I was stood there with a pint in one hand and a cig in the other looking perplexed
 

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