Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

I have a work colleague whose son has just went to Bali for a year but wants to see if it could be a permanent thing. She is breaking her heart over it, like almost grief.

The idea of my own lads not being local to me actually makes me feel a bit ill.

You are right of course though, you have to give them their own choices and space.

I am sure Olivers Mum feels different to me. Will speak to her tomorrow. As I have said in another thread, a mothers love for a child is different. Not better, or stronger, but different.

But I am made up for him and his GF.
 

I have a work colleague whose son has just went to Bali for a year but wants to see if it could be a permanent thing. She is breaking her heart over it, like almost grief.

The idea of my own lads not being local to me actually makes me feel a bit ill.

You are right of course though, you have to give them their own choices and space.
Our son lived over the road from us (see reply to Kev), they moved two years ago after 12 years. They have their dream house only 8 miles away and I see them and the grandkids regularly but I still miss them being on the doorstep, so to speak. Daughter lives 10 minutes away. I would do nothing to hold them back but the thought of either of them moving far away would make me unhappy.
 
I have a work colleague whose son has just went to Bali for a year but wants to see if it could be a permanent thing. She is breaking her heart over it, like almost grief.

The idea of my own lads not being local to me actually makes me feel a bit ill.

You are right of course though, you have to give them their own choices and space.
You feel sad that they're so far away but proud that you opened their mind enough and gave them the confidence to live their life to the full. That's my experience anyway. Feel proud!
 
Our son lived over the road from us (see reply to Kev), they moved two years ago after 12 years. They have their dream house only 8 miles away and I see them and the grandkids regularly but I still miss them being on the doorstep, so to speak. Daughter lives 10 minutes away. I would do nothing to hold them back but the thought of either of them moving far away would make me unhappy.

Far away, but still in the UK, would make me sad as well. But far away in NZ makes me happy. Weird innit?
 

Good evening everyone. Hope your day has been good. I've enjoyed the last few pages. I'm firmly in the mushy peas camp. Love them. Coleslaw and salad have their place ( or should that be plaice?) but with anything from the chippy it has to be mushy peas...and curry sauce. Is that too weird?
@RoydoIm so glad you are happy for your son. I'm sure you will miss him but as you say the best thing you can do for your children is support their independence. My son moved to Nottingham in December and I miss not having him around but he's loving life and is settled so I'm happy for him.
We're currently watching, for about the 10 millionth time The Magnificent Seven. Mr F loves westerns and I have to admit to liking this one very much.

Have a good night all.
 
Our son lived over the road from us (see reply to Kev), they moved two years ago after 12 years. They have their dream house only 8 miles away and I see them and the grandkids regularly but I still miss them being on the doorstep, so to speak. Daughter lives 10 minutes away. I would do nothing to hold them back but the thought of either of them moving far away would make me unhappy.
That I grew up and live in the same small place maybe accentuates my thinking on this. We all know each other and while some might not like that I love it.

Here’s hoping a local girl catches their eye ?
 

Not bad mate. Me, the eldest, and his GF went to Mums, so she could meet the GF for the first time earlier. She, GF, is utterly delightful. And they announced they are both off to NZ in November on a 2 year work visa. So I am thrilled for them. No job or house lined up yet, but they are utterly arsed!

One of those moments. Me mum (87) was at first sad, she loves Oliver, and they have a lovely relationship. She asked me how I felt. I said that if Oliver is happy, then so am I. Then she said if you are happy, then so am I then.

IMO, the best thing you can give kids is independence, and wings.
I left home when I was 22 went to Jersey for 10 years ,went back to Speke for a few years

Then moved to Canada when I was 35, always had the backing of my Mum and Dad it was a hard decision, but they came over and visited a lot of times

Seen the lifestyle that we had and backed us 100% it’s everyone’s individual choice but do what you have to
 

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