Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven


Gwladysover said:
Congrats on the recognition that you are getting in your new job @Sassy Colombian, it’s a shame that the financial rewards are not quite what you had hoped. When I read what you have to pay in medical insurances etc I am so grateful for our NHS which is far from perfect but it’s free at the point of use. When I consider the care our family has received over the years there is no way we could have afforded the insurance premiums. Having said that under the present and previous governments it is slowly being dismantled and I fear that further down the line that the NHS as we know it will no longer exist. Rant over. Loved the pics, glad you all enjoyed the play. I studied Midsummer Night’s Dream at school back in the Dark Ages lol
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Thanks @Gwladysover the recognition has been gratifying and while I wish the financial aspect was better, I am still grateful for having this new big job and for the new opportunities it’s opening for me so hopefully one day I’ll be rewarded more financially. I wish here in the US there was something similar to the NHS, or some sort of public health care system instead of the the private system we currently have that’s only interested in profits.

Did you get a better grasp of the English by studying Shakespeare’s work? Haha, if it was the dark ages then how many centurits are you really turning today?? Happy Birthday dear friend?
 
blue1948 said:
Here in Finland nudity is common but only normally within the family group ,as in going to the sauna and swimming afterwards ,of course with the children until puberty .Then we always sunbathe naked -no photos - as there is just the two of us and we have no neighbours and often walk around with just flip flops on . There is a film that was made by a Finnsih woman on the sauna culture and they are all naked ,she said she made it to show there are all different sizes and shapes of people .
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Haha it seems you, your wife and I have a lot in common. Nudity was common within my immediate family also until puberty, but with my mom we have continued feeling comfortable aound each other naked. Like if we go shopping together we can both be in the dressing room comfortably changing clothes without feeling unease, same with Sofia. But my husband and Sofia for example don’t interact now days nude like we did when she was little. TBH I’m the one around the house who feels more at ease being nude. I sunbathe naked, we have a fenced in yard and because of the outdoor jacuzzi I’m also find myself walking in just flip flops, although I did that more often when I wasn’t working full time. I used to love to go to the sauna at the gym but since Covid began I don’t feel comfortable being in such a close space breathing hot air with other naked women, but before I didn’t mind at all.
 

larbert toffee said:
To cut a very long story short, I am currently down for the weekend giving my brother a break from looking after my parents who are 83 and 87. He gave up working full time to look after them he now splits his time between work and caring for them and my dad makes up his wages out of his own pocket.
Due to my parents increasingly fading health my brother who is 59 is now looking to become their full time carer as that is what they now require.
As we've always been fortunate not to have to claim benefits within the family, would any of you good people know where my brother could find out how to become a full time carer and anywhere he could get support or assistance.
It's something that's crept up on us like a lot of people our age and we're just looking for the best way to go about it, any advice would be gratefully received. Thank you.
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Great advice from Roydo and Anjelika. Just to add that for the those over pension age the benefit is Attendance Allowance instead of PIP. This would be claimed by your parents not your brother. Potentially both could make separate claims depending on their care needs. Your brother would claim Carers Allowance. As was pointed out, neither of these benefits are means tested though there are other such benefits available if you are on a low income. You can also seek a social care needs assessment from the local council for aids and adaptations or if extra care support is needed. The Citizens Advice website is excellent and has a section on all aspects of carer support.

Living in Spain and with both parents over 90 I have been in a similar position to you over the last couple of years, travelling back to Liverpool for long periods. Good luck and stay strong.
 
Barnfred 55 said:
What's the state pension benefits like over in the US Sass? I have no idea. The pension contributions may be hard on the purse strings right now, but is something you may be thankful for in 20 plus years.

When you hear stories like this it makes you so grateful for our own National Health service. There may be some genuine gripes about how our NHS is set up and operated, but I thinks it's still the best thing our country has ever done.
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Our state pension is supposed to be very good, much better than the federal social security program that is expected to run out of money by the time I’ll be retiring so I should be much better off and I’ll be thankful, I’m definitely not complaining about contributing my fair share for that, what makes me furious is the cost of health insurance especially because when going to the doctor there still copayments it is not like it is free.

While your National Health service may not be perfect. Our private health care system is horrible the lead reason of bankruptcy in the US is medical bills ?
 
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Barnfred 55 said:
You surprise me Sass. I thought you'd have been straight in there. You don't normally need an invitation to whip them out. lol
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I really have not issue with whipping anything, or anyone out for fun :p But you have not been warned by Dan with a GOT ban, so I rather behave and not risk the same fate that has fall upon some of our friends (such as Toast ?)
 
Sassy Colombian said:
Haha it seems you, your wife and I have a lot in common. Nudity was common within my immediate family also until puberty, but with my mom we have continued feeling comfortable aound each other naked. Like if we go shopping together we can both be in the dressing room comfortably changing clothes without feeling unease, same with Sofia. But my husband and Sofia for example don’t interact now days nude like we did when she was little. TBH I’m the one around the house who feels more at ease being nude. I sunbathe naked, we have a fenced in yard and because of the outdoor jacuzzi I’m also find myself walking in just flip flops, although I did that more often when I wasn’t working full time. I used to love to go to the sauna at the gym but since Covid began I don’t feel comfortable being in such a close space breathing hot air with other naked women, but before I didn’t mind at all.
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When you have tried the sauna naked it is waste of time going with shorts on. My son who has never seen me naked was ok changing with his back to mine but never in the sauna -until he went to the family summer home sauna without me and that was it next time we were both naked .
 

John BCN said:
Great advice from Roydo and Anjelika. Just to add that for the those over pension age the benefit is Attendance Allowance instead of PIP. This would be claimed by your parents not your brother. Potentially both could make separate claims depending on their care needs. Your brother would claim Carers Allowance. As was pointed out, neither of these benefits are means tested though there are other such benefits available if you are on a low income. You can also seek a social care needs assessment from the local council for aids and adaptations or if extra care support is needed. The Citizens Advice website is excellent and has a section on all aspects of carer support.

Living in Spain and with both parents over 90 I have been in a similar position to you over the last couple of years, travelling back to Liverpool for long periods. Good luck and stay strong.
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Thanks for taking time out for that John, we will explore all your suggestions, I fully appreciate now the tough job carried out by all carers.
 
Sassy Colombian said:
That’s comforting to hear, because it wasn’t only my daughter having difficulty following Shakespeare lol
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Like Gwladys I studied Shakespeare at A level.
The language used at that time can be distracting and difficult to understand/ follow. So we used to rewrite large passages into modern English. The underlying message of what Shakespeare was setting out became a bit clearer but the lyricism and beauty of the language was lost.
See if you can download ( probably on YouTube) a soliloquy of Richard Burton quoting Shakespeare. Have you daughter ( and friends) listen to it with their eyes closed.
Don't bother about them understanding the words , just the flow of the language . It is very powerful and eventually you will get to understand the meaning of the words and then the incredible underlying message.
In the same way as Mozart and Beethoven , Shakespeare was a genius and arguably Britain greatest human.
 

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