Impending Fatherhood : Advice Welcome

[Pabbers]

We didn't have problems with sleeping, at first she used to sleep in 4-5 hour blocks between feeds then went to sleeping straight thru the night, quite lucky with that

You are lucky mate. Mine are 4 and 7, and while not too bad with the sleeping when younger, they are both up at 6:30 to 7:00 am EVERY day, Sat and Sunday too. I have not 'slept in' for years.

Even when they stay out or me and the wife are away for the night, my body clock is set to wake up at that time now, and god forbid I try to get a nap at lunch time at a weekend....."Why are you sleeping now ?? This is the only time you get with us all, we should be out doing stuff....." Yes dear, your right, of we go.

Great aint it !?!

 

[orchard]

Congrat's!
Don't buy EVERYTHING under the sun in preperation. There are loads of companies trying to get a slice of your wad dude. Research (eg like you're doing)

 

[zed]

i hope mrs milk is gonna breast-feed, y`know all that colostrum etc. the up side for you is you dont got to get up at 3am to do a bottle and the big one is that formula stuff is rubbish and just comes out the other end meaning more nappy changes and bigger poo`s -ie. all coming out of the sides of the nappy etc. my advice is get cracking on mini milk 2 asap. they help each other in a million ways. above all ENJOY. theyre a bit boring til they are about a year old but after that its ace all the way and dont forget you reap what you sow- the more time/undivided attention you give them the better all round

 

[Pabbers]

i hope mrs milk is gonna breast-feed, y`know all that colostrum etc. the up side for you is you dont got to get up at 3am to do a bottle

The upside, is you get to bond with your child, and really helps when they need help sleeping, as they will be used to both parents nursing them back to sleep etc, and don't just whine for mummy.

 

[Roztitute]

Just make sure he's a blue!

 

[zed]

The upside, is you get to bond with your child, and really helps when they need help sleeping, as they will be used to both parents nursing them back to sleep etc, and don't just whine for mummy.

sure thats a plus on the "getting up in wee small hours" front. we get plenty of bonding going on with the nappy changes though mate

 

[BigDunc'sFod]

Congratulations, Milk, lad.

There is this great concept of the "good-enough" parent. You will make mistakes for sure, but as long as you make the right decision most of the time, your child will not grow up to be a cnut. Basically, just keep in mind that decisions you make are moulding a human, but not EVERY decision you make needs to be the right one (other than bad decisions that would lead to death, of course!).

Love your child and encourage them in all their interests (within reason, obviously if their interest is travelling then it is fund-dependent). Try to talk with them as much as possible, and teach them to think for themselves.

As for baby stuff - if you're going to do that self-soothe ****, make sure that you know how it works. Leaving a 1 year olf to cry for 3 hours isn't the right way to go about it. Also, enjoy every stage of the kid's development because you can't go back in time. The pub can wait until the kid is asleep or whatever it is. Love your child more than your career. Remember that Mrs. Milk will be feeling the stress too and anything you can do to remove that for her will make all of your lives easier.

The ride in the car was a great shout by the way.

 

[milks]

Congratulations, Milk, lad.

There is this great concept of the "good-enough" parent. You will make mistakes for sure, but as long as you make the right decision most of the time, your child will not grow up to be a cnut. Basically, just keep in mind that decisions you make are moulding a human, but not EVERY decision you make needs to be the right one (other than bad decisions that would lead to death, of course!).

Love your child and encourage them in all their interests (within reason, obviously if their interest is travelling then it is fund-dependent). Try to talk with them as much as possible, and teach them to think for themselves.

As for baby stuff - if you're going to do that self-soothe ****, make sure that you know how it works. Leaving a 1 year olf to cry for 3 hours isn't the right way to go about it. Also, enjoy every stage of the kid's development because you can't go back in time. The pub can wait until the kid is asleep or whatever it is. Love your child more than your career. Remember that Mrs. Milk will be feeling the stress too and anything you can do to remove that for her will make all of your lives easier.

The ride in the car was a great shout by the way.

Cheers Fod, and thanks all.

I'm comfy about the kid growing up, it's the baby stuff I'm a little more worried about. I've got 15 or so nephews but I always got to give them back when they started bawling.

Suppose the bottom line is I have to learn, it's in at the deep end. Can't wait to be honest. ****ty nappy me up!

 

[EFCNIK]

15 nephews? 15?!

 

[Sid James]

Buy Calpol and loads of it

 

[milks]

15 nephews? 15?!

My dad was a player.

I've got 6 sisters and a brother (that I know of) potentially a host of awesome ginger bearded relatives all over Europe we're unaware of.

 

[EFCNIK]

My dad was a player.

I've got 6 sisters and a brother (that I know of) potentially a host of awesome ginger bearded relatives all over Europe we're unaware of.

Have you met artetafan?

 

[wm02]

First, congratulations to you and your wife. In a way, no one is really ever 100% prepared to become a parent, so I think everyone's been in the same place. Prior to the arrival of mini-Milks, I'd suggest trying to squeeze in some more nice dinners, movies, etc. with the wife. It can take a while after the baby is born to get back to those types of things. Also, I'd talk to some of your friends/family with young children to see what they actually use. There's a lot of useless stuff that stores peddle to expectant parents these days.
As for raising a Blue, I was really lucky in that regard as my daughter was about two-and-a-half when Everton came to DC last summer and it was the first sporting event she attended (My God, Anichebe scored and Beckford had an assist). And the next morning I awoke to hear her singing "Everton, Everton" in her room, made me a proud papa. Since then, she's watched almost all of the games with me, though at a certain point it was important to her for her to have a favorite player (Fellaini) and that she knew the favorites for me and my wife, and, eventually, her younger brother (who's now about eight months old). I'm hoping he'll follow her lead. Best wishes, you all will do well with this

 

[Alio]

Well, we had our 12 week scan last week and it all feels a little more real now. Mini-Milks is due to arrive early Jan 2013. Our first, and suffice to say I'm ecstatic.

Aside from the impending battle with the in-laws to prevent it being brought up as a Villa fan, what other nuggets of advice can the fathers of the board give me?

Wooaah, just seen this, well played Milko.

Show the in laws the new Villa kit and our new away one, simple as that. Plus everyone supports Villa round our way, it's cool to support a random team. I think.

Congratulations Sir!