Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

Syrup said:
I found out this morning I missed my A level grades I need for my firm university choice by a couple of marks so I am a little bit on the upset and stressed side (one more Beto 0.99XG miss or Jack Harrison transfer link would send me over the edge). I am in the process of calling my school and Universities for help and to bargain and I must say the system is broken (although I wouldn’t be saying that if I got my grades). I feel there’s something cruel in making teenagers stressed out to the max ring up a university and bargain for their future.

I’m trying to get remarks but I still fear it won’t be enough.

I’m disappointed in myself because I tried my absolute hardest and still pulled up short. I feel like I’ve let my parents down and those who care for me. However, at the same time I keep telling myself I should still be proud of myself for trying my hardest but I still just can’t really process that.

Sorry if this isn’t the most well constructed piece of writing you’ve seen but I just wanted a place to come and dump everything off my shoulders.

Best wishes guys
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A lot of courses drop their grades if they don’t fill them mate, could be yours is one of them ?

If not, what about your second and third choice Uni’s ?

We went thru all this with one of my lads last year, he missed his first choice by one grade initially, but still go on it, due to the course not being full 👍
 
COYBL25 said:
A lot of courses drop their grades if they don’t fill them mate, could be yours is one of them ?

If not, what about your second and third choice Uni’s ?

We went thru all this with one of my lads last year, he missed his first choice by one grade initially, but still go on it, due to the course not being full 👍
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Unfortunately my firm uni said no sorry we still aren’t letting you in (it’s quite a competitive one with many applicants, hence why) but said if I remark my papers and they go up they’ll let me in.

Fortunately I’ve got into my insurance uni but I don’t really want to admit proverbial defeat at the moment and lose all my hope of still getting into my firm. Of course, whilst it may seem like the end of the world today, and even if the remarks don’t go my way, I’ll live and grow from this experience and most importantly I’m in good health and come from a loving safe household which unfortunately so many kids around the world and here at home don’t have the privilege of enjoying; so I’ll live to fight another day.

After the darkest nights come the brightest day.
 
Syrup said:
Unfortunately my firm uni said no sorry we still aren’t letting you in (it’s quite a competitive one with many applicants, hence why) but said if I remark my papers and they go up they’ll let me in.

Fortunately I’ve got into my insurance uni but I don’t really want to admit proverbial defeat at the moment and lose all my hope of still getting into my firm. Of course, whilst it may seem like the end of the world today, and even if the remarks don’t go my way, I’ll live and grow from this experience and most importantly I’m in good health and come from a loving safe household which unfortunately so many kids around the world and here at home don’t have the privilege of enjoying; so I’ll live to fight another day.

After the darkest nights come the brightest day.
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Some great advice on here and you’ve clearly got your head well screwed on..!

FWIW, I didn’t get the grades I needed for my preferred uni course, ended up doing a foundation year. Had to do loads of resits along the way but got there in the end.

Ended up in the career I’d always wanted, and not one person ever asked about my GCSE, A-Level or degree results ever again..! As you rightly say, lots to be grateful for and this is just a challenge to be overcome, a blip on the way to your future. Sounds like you’re all over it 👍🏻, Best of luck 👍🏻👍🏻
 
ADM320 said:
Some great advice on here and you’ve clearly got your head well screwed on..!

FWIW, I didn’t get the grades I needed for my preferred uni course, ended up doing a foundation year. Had to do loads of resits along the way but got there in the end.

Ended up in the career I’d always wanted, and not one person ever asked about my GCSE, A-Level or degree results ever again..! As you rightly say, lots to be grateful for and this is just a challenge to be overcome, a blip on the way to your future. Sounds like you’re all over it 👍🏻, Best of luck 👍🏻👍🏻
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When we all left school many many years ago, one of the lads who did okay with his exams, decided to conduct an experiment, by just totally lying about his grades when applying for jobs.

Not once was he asked to provide proof at any interviews.

He got a decent clerical job, as a shipping clerk at Garston Docks by lying.

Fast forward thirty years and he’s just retired on a fat pension from running the admin side of the docks !

Another mate who is a long serving Barrister, told me that never once had he ever been asked to provide proof of his qualifications either !
 
COYBL25 said:
When we all left school many many years ago, one of the lads who did okay with his exams, decided to conduct an experiment, by just totally lying about his grades when applying for jobs.

Not once was he asked to provide proof at any interviews.

He got a decent clerical job, as a shipping clerk at Garston Docks by lying.

Fast forward thirty years and he’s just retired on a fat pension from running the admin side of the docks !

Another mate who is a long serving Barrister, told me that never once had he ever been asked to provide proof of his qualifications either !
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I think this included most of the staff employed by Moshiri and Kenwright
 
DanEFC92 said:
Has anyone had a break in a relationship and its worked out?

In that boat atm. It's not been great on the ol mental health.
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I guess you'd first have to define 'break'

- Is it a break with an agreed timeframe of "getting back together"?
- Is it a break to explore other avenues?
- Is it a break just for a little space to yourselves etc.?
 
DanEFC92 said:
Its been on/off (obvs lol) so like dating since beginning last year, officially like 6 months.



Hers would you believe


Even typing this out I'm like hmm should just nip this in the bud. And yet.
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Theres a reason I dont type in this thread much, maybe cos im too cyncial, but, if you want my advice, you should probably move on mate.

Just know that there are PLENTY of lovely ladies out there and 1 of them is yours, you will find her in time.

*leaves thread forever
 
DanEFC92 said:
Its been on/off (obvs lol) so like dating since beginning last year, officially like 6 months.



Hers would you believe
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Even typing this out I'm like hmm should just nip this in the bud. And yet.
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First of all make sure and keep yourself straight. 6 months is a short time in your life.

I am married 33 years and with Mrs BR more than 35.

We still tee each other off but always get over 'whatever' causes problems.

I humbly suggest you think about what this rift is about, take several deep breaths, and decide then if the relationship is much more important.

I wish you the very best my Blue mate.
 
DanEFC92 said:
Its been on/off (obvs lol) so like dating since beginning last year, officially like 6 months.



Hers would you believe


Even typing this out I'm like hmm should just nip this in the bud. And yet.
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If it's happening after 6 months you should just move on, you should still be in the 'honeymoon phase' I suppose at that point and you probably don't have that many commitments with her, such as shared house etc
 

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