Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

Gwladysover said:
Morning all, sun cracking the flags already. I’ve just realised the F A Cup final is the day before our last home home game against Sunderland and my planned trip to Bramley Moore. Is it wrong of me to hope that both teams have been knocked out before then?
@anjelikaferrett, hope the funeral goes as well as these things can.
@peteblue hope the Indian food van is a success and you are able to keep Kay cool in this hot weather, @blue1948 is right you absolutely know what is best for her.
@Pilks I hope you are able to at least see some resolution to your problems and find some peace.
Last but certainly not least @Barnfred 55 I will be thinking of you today, the anniversary of your marriage to your lovely Cal.
Have a good day, all.💙
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So thoughtful G
 

Pilks said:
I haven't posted in a few days, sadly because things have gone from bad to unimaginably worse for me. I don't think I even want to bring this up on a mainstream thread.

I got the death certificate yesterday and saw the bank about Janet's finances. I knew following her death that she had been giving significant financial help to a friend who was in dire straits, though I did not know to what extent. Now I do and it is beyond shocking. From my believing a week ago that I had a savings nest egg to retire on worth at least 80k, I today discovered that it has all gone. All of it, given away in a philanthropic haze.

This has taken me from the grieving process to wondering how I will even live. My safe retirement which I had worked for and then performed carer duties towards has been shattered, and I really don't have the will to 'pick myself up and start again'. I can only imagine that things had started to snowball, and maybe she thought if she continued she would get it back, or else she just ended up in denial. What does seem likely is that the stress of being afraid to confess this to me may very well have directly brought on the attack which killed her.

Had she only realised, I would have forgiven it and worked with her to rebuild things. I can only cling to the fact that I am certain she did love me, as she made it plain in the way we lived every day, so this must have ended up as a black dog of her stupidity that she couldn't shake. It certainly ruins the way I could have grieved for her in that pure untainted way you want to. It could well be that, since the funds had just run out that very day, she was just getting the big anniversary out of the way before taking the huge step of telling me - but she didn't live to do so, which compounds the agony.

I'm really not sure how to go on here. Almost 64, worked for 30 years and then done voluntary work and full time caring for another 15, and I am in the same boat as someone who has frittered his life away. I tried to call the CAB to make an appointment but the line had just closed. I tried them again today and they were brusque and unhelpful.

I am constantly beating myself up for not getting eyes on the finances before now, especially as she has had a history in the past of giving away money to help someone - but never to this extent. I guess I didn't want to think that it could happen, as she was so clued up financially having worked for the tax office and the DWP in the past, and I just put it off and trusted, leading to this point where my life feels effectively over.

I can barely even conceive myself of the mess I have found myself in. I envy those who can merely grieve - I yearn for the state I was in a week ago, horrible though it was. There was still light at the end of the tunnel. There isn't now.
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It really saddens me to see what you are going through. I can't imagine how you are coping right now trying to process all of this. Most likely you aren't. I'm away from home at the moment and my days are full but I'm back on 7th July. Please call me. I've experienced a lot of what you are going through and could maybe help with some practical matters. More importantly I hope I can show you that there is light at the end of the tunnel because right now you're probably finding that pretty hard to fathom.

Take care mate. We're all rooting for you.💙
 
Gwladysover said:
Morning all, sun cracking the flags already. I’ve just realised the F A Cup final is the day before our last home home game against Sunderland and my planned trip to Bramley Moore. Is it wrong of me to hope that both teams have been knocked out before then?
@anjelikaferrett, hope the funeral goes as well as these things can.
@peteblue hope the Indian food van is a success and you are able to keep Kay cool in this hot weather, @blue1948 is right you absolutely know what is best for her.
@Pilks I hope you are able to at least see some resolution to your problems and find some peace.
Last but certainly not least @Barnfred 55 I will be thinking of you today, the anniversary of your marriage to your lovely Cal.
Have a good day, all.💙
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Thank you H. 33 years ago today. I knew you'd remember. When we met the other week I was half expecting somebody with grey crinkly skin and a very long snout. No offence. 😀

I'm going to walk up to Allerton later for a little chat with Cal and also my brother. He was a massive red so will no doubt be celebrating at the moment. Its a round walk of about 4 miles so in this heat I shojld sweat off my hangover. Tonight I'm going for a posh meal with 2 of my sisters. My eldest has travelled down from the Lakes for the family lunch I've organised on Sunday.. There will be 4 generations there so really looking forward to it. The daughter of my great niece who died of breast cancer a few years back is making her debut.💙
 
Armaghtoffee said:
Garden furniture dragged out of the garden today with 2 scorchers ahead of us. I have vowed to have at least one meal and at least one coffee out in the garden each day to make the most of it.
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Went to the first of the gigs last night. The 3 openers, Keyside, Overpass and Corella were all brilliant. Even my mate said they were the highlight and he only knew Keyside because I recommended them when I was last up. The other 2 he'd never heard before.

The support act Pale Waves were a bit disappointing as for some reason the sound mix for their set was awful. You could hardly hear her which is a shame as it's her voice that make their sound different. The Wombats were OK. Probably a 7 out of 10 but the whole night was probably a 9. Corella, a Manchester band was probably the stand out. You could tell they had a bit more stage experience than the other 2 openers. It was obvious they brought quite a few fans from Manchester with them too.
 
Armaghtoffee said:
Garden furniture dragged out of the garden today with 2 scorchers ahead of us. I have vowed to have at least one meal and at least one coffee out in the garden each day to make the most of it.
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Couple of new debut EPs dropped today. Florence Road, who are now becoming known as Flo Ro and their followers Flo Roadies.😀

The other is by a band you may not know yet, Keo. It's mainly 2 brothers. Their names Finn and Conor Keogh may give you an indication of their roots.😀 Their sound is very similar to Wunderhorse so right up my street.

Not listened to either yet but I have a bit of spare time tomorrow so may treat myself to a 24 hour Internet package at the hotel. Let me know if you think the £3 cost is a worthwhile investment. 🙂
 

Barnfred 55 said:
Went to the first of the gigs last night. The 3 openers, Keyside, Overpass and Corella were all brilliant. Even my mate said they were the highlight and he only knew Keyside because I recommended them when I was last up. The other 2 he'd never heard before.

The support act Pale Waves were a bit disappointing as for some reason the sound mix for their set was awful. You could hardly hear her which is a shame as it's her voice that make their sound different. The Wombats were OK. Probably a 7 out of 10 but the whole night was probably a 9. Corella, a Manchester band was probably the stand out. You could tell they had a bit more stage experience than the other 2 openers. It was obvious they brought quite a few fans from Manchester with them too.
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That’s disappointing re Pale waves as I know you like them.

Never heard of Corella myself but will check them out. As I type I have this on repeat:

 
Barnfred 55 said:
Couple of new debut EPs dropped today. Florence Road, who are now becoming known as Flo Ro and their followers Flo Roadies.😀

The other is by a band you may not know yet, Keo. It's mainly 2 brothers. Their names Finn and Conor Keogh may give you an indication of their roots.😀 Their sound is very similar to Wunderhorse so right up my street.

Not listened to either yet but I have a bit of spare time tomorrow so may treat myself to a 24 hour Internet package at the hotel. Let me know if you think the £3 cost is a worthwhile investment. 🙂
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Keo are new to me and their bio suggests they grew up everywhere 😀. 5 tracks in their EP and it’s like they have ranked them 1-5 in terms of quality.
 
Armaghtoffee said:
That’s disappointing re Pale waves as I know you like them.

Never heard of Corella myself but will check them out. As I type I have this on repeat:

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He really winds me up mate. And not in a good way. Yungblud, somebody else who has quite an annoying personality, has just done a cover of Bitter sweet symphony for Radio 1 and it's very good.
 
Barnfred 55 said:
Couple of new debut EPs dropped today. Florence Road, who are now becoming known as Flo Ro and their followers Flo Roadies.😀

The other is by a band you may not know yet, Keo. It's mainly 2 brothers. Their names Finn and Conor Keogh may give you an indication of their roots.😀 Their sound is very similar to Wunderhorse so right up my street.

Not listened to either yet but I have a bit of spare time tomorrow so may treat myself to a 24 hour Internet package at the hotel. Let me know if you think the £3 cost is a worthwhile investment. 🙂
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Flo Ro worth the £3 on its own 👏👏
 


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