My wife died suddenly, and I'm not doing well...

[barneygumble]

Thoughts to you @Pilks

I can't even begin to comprehend how youre feeling, but thankfully there are places like this forum where people can support you.

Far from an empty gesture, and im sure you'll have a plethora of offers, but feel free to drop us a message if you feel you need it.

 

[Jamo Martinez]

So sorry for your loss mate. I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to share with the people on here.

I can agree with the sentiment of getting a shelter pet. A dog or a cat that needs a loving soul. But that depends entirely if and when you feel up to it.

My thoughts are with you.

 

[Groucho]

@Pilks

I’m sure if you need any further support @GrandOldTeam and myself will be more than happy to signpost or help.

Extremely sorry again for your loss.

 

[matty1878]

Sorry if this doesn't belong (not an Ale House topic maybe), but I wanted to reach out to a group of like minded Blues who I have enjoyed interacting with for over a decade now

Last night (Monday), my wife died suddenly and rather unpleasantly. It was our 30th wedding anniversary, and we were just getting ready to go out for a meal to celebrate when she had a kind of awful seizure and keeled over in the chair. I was talked through doing CPR until the ambulance arrived, but to no avail. They restarted the heart, but there was no brain activity and she passed.

I'd been her full time carer since she became disabled some years ago, and to be honest my life pretty much revolved around her. We were rarely apart for more than a few hours at most, and even now I feel the need stupidly to tell her about what's happened! Having no family left and no kids, I'm alone in the empty house now, full of her half-done things, and it's very hard to even imagine coping.

Wonder whether anyone else has gone through something similar? I never, ever envisaged this feeling even when my parents and my younger sister died. Everything is an empty hole.

Apologies for bringing things down - one of the things we loved to do together was laugh at the RS, I would often read her particularly funny posts from on here. Everything like that is hard to think about now...

oh mate i’m so sorry i’m sending you online hugs PM me if you want to talk x

 

[canuckblue]

Terribly sorry for your loss. My first wife died of cancer in 2007 and the one thing I learned was not to try to handle it alone. Reach out -- to friends, trusted co-workers, even the motley crew that is GOT. In time, I hope, your pain will diminish.

 

[Graeme Shar-pei]

Take care of yourself mate. Take it one day at a time.

 

[BlueStevie35]

My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones sir, please don’t ever feel you cannot share your feelings with us, we are all ‘La Familia’ here on GOT, when one has a loss or are feeling low, we all do

 

[maccavennie]

Sorry if this doesn't belong (not an Ale House topic maybe), but I wanted to reach out to a group of like minded Blues who I have enjoyed interacting with for over a decade now

Last night (Monday), my wife died suddenly and rather unpleasantly. It was our 30th wedding anniversary, and we were just getting ready to go out for a meal to celebrate when she had a kind of awful seizure and keeled over in the chair. I was talked through doing CPR until the ambulance arrived, but to no avail. They restarted the heart, but there was no brain activity and she passed.

I'd been her full time carer since she became disabled some years ago, and to be honest my life pretty much revolved around her. We were rarely apart for more than a few hours at most, and even now I feel the need stupidly to tell her about what's happened! Having no family left and no kids, I'm alone in the empty house now, full of her half-done things, and it's very hard to even imagine coping.

Wonder whether anyone else has gone through something similar? I never, ever envisaged this feeling even when my parents and my younger sister died. Everything is an empty hole.

Apologies for bringing things down - one of the things we loved to do together was laugh at the RS, I would often read her particularly funny posts from on here. Everything like that is hard to think about now...

Really sorry to hear this mate. I haven't read any of the pages yet, just this post.

May your wife rest in peace and my thoughts are with you

 

[Donegal blue]

Mate, so sorry for your loss, keep talking, and keep telling your wife about your day if it helps. I lost my mum recently and I know what it feels like. Chin up bud, were always here .

 

[Vintage]

I can't even imagine how tough the last 24 hours or so have been for you mate. So very sorry for your loss. Even through such a traumatic devastating time at least you were by her side as you seem to have been for such a long time. Grief might not fully hit you until you least expect it and prepare yourself for when that happens by talking to people even professional people to help you through these and those tough times ahead. Cherish the memories ye both created together and GOT is always here for you to talk.

 

[evertondotcom]

I don’t post that often on forums anymore but the your original post was quite beautiful. The way you speak about your wife depicts nothing but utter love.

I often (morbidly) think about how I’d be if my wife passed - and I selfishly hope I never know.

My thoughts are with you. Stay strong and remember the best times of your life.

 

[JelavicBrate2]

I know somebody who goes to a group for those who have lost their spouses, they regularly meet in and around Merseyside, this may well be useless information if your not local, but it's helped him meeting with those going through similar issue.

 

[Efcjake]

Oh mate that is absolutely gutting to read.

So sorry for your loss. I don't know what I'd do in your position but reach out to the people you have in your life and try to celebrate the good memories. If you want to talk about the struggles of your day with her she's still there listening but so will other people help you in her absence.

 

[jazzy]

So sorry for your loss mate.

It's trite but time is a healer.

Take care Pilks.

 

[Bungle]

Sorry to hear your news Pilks, hope you're holding up OK.

As much as we're mostly a gang of knobheads on here it's a great outlet with some decent people so lean on it as much as you need to help you through it.

All the best mate