My wife died suddenly, and I'm not doing well...
- Thread starter Pilks
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - that must have been a huge shock to you and so traumatic. Please keep talking to us - share all your random thoughts and what you've been doing. We will listen. Give yourself time to grieve, you don't have to conform to anybody's ideas of timelines. As others have said, think about joining a club or getting a dog or a cat - but only when you feel it is right for you. Much love x
Gwladysover
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So very very sorry to read of your loss. Give yourself time to grieve, there is no right or wrong way just what is right for you. Please keep sharing your thoughts - there is always someone here to listen. My sincerest condolences.
@Pilks im so sorry for your sudden and tragic loss, like others have stated already it’s good that you have shared your feelings with others, it’s still very early in the grieving process for you and although it sounds cliched you need to allow yourself that time to grieve. My thoughts, along with many others on here I would suggest, are with you at this sad and difficult time.
Much love x
Much love x
magicjuan
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So sorry to hear about your loss but pleased that you knew to reach out.
Loss itself is enough to cope with, deal with that primarily. Don't go over the hows and whys, as difficult as that is, it stops you from remembering your wife in the right way, with good memories and smiles.
Keep reaching out as long as you need to, there are plenty out there willing to listen. And don't forget to look after yourself, front and foremost.
Loss itself is enough to cope with, deal with that primarily. Don't go over the hows and whys, as difficult as that is, it stops you from remembering your wife in the right way, with good memories and smiles.
Keep reaching out as long as you need to, there are plenty out there willing to listen. And don't forget to look after yourself, front and foremost.
Sent you a DM mate x
flibbyflob
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Look after yourself, we are all here for you. You will be in shock and have lots of questions but never blame yourself and give yourself time to recover.
After losing my mum earlier this year I can only say don't rush anything.
After losing my mum earlier this year I can only say don't rush anything.
CrustySack
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Sorry for your loss @Pilks . My heart goes out to you. You have a lot to process and it will take time. DM me if you just feel like talking. As others have said, get yourself a dog or a cat. Don't hibernate. Join a club. Reach out to people. You've already made the first step on here.
Take care x
Take care x
Terribly sorry to hear of this news Pilks, please reach out of you feel the need to
I'm really sorry for your loss mate. As others have said, it's very early days in the grieving process. Keep reaching out whenever and wherever necessary. The community on here, as you know, is full of all sorts. The one thing we have in common is, we care. Stay safe.
Ed_Winchester
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I’m really sorry for your loss.
I think you recognise you need help - putting it out on here is just the first step, but the internet is not always ideal. Like a few have said, try and get to see someone to talk about it.
Don’t rush or feel pressured. You will know when you’re ready or at least feel that you have either the systems or medication in place to help you cope.
I think you recognise you need help - putting it out on here is just the first step, but the internet is not always ideal. Like a few have said, try and get to see someone to talk about it.
Don’t rush or feel pressured. You will know when you’re ready or at least feel that you have either the systems or medication in place to help you cope.
I am very sorry for your loss. It is a shocker losing someone unexpectedly. I went through something similar when my Dad passed. He was wheelchair bound and my Mom was his full-time carer with me helping out around work.
He suffered a pulmonary embolism - a blood clot where part breaks off and hits the heart, causing heart failure (my layman's understanding). In short, had a fit/seizure in front of us and passed on the way to the hospital. If you are like me and mom, you'll be in a daze, a bit numb and still in shock.
It took me a long time to get over it. I strongly suggest seeing your GP or seeking bereavement counselling if needed.
My mom found herself not knowing to do with herself especially - like you care had become her world. Her two best friends dragged her our of the house and took her to various groups and classes (anything from line dancing to gardening). That helped her get back on her feet and find some rhythm etc.
Hopefully you've got a few mates you can reach out to? Not sure of your age (my Mom was/is retired so folk have time and us fellas can do friendships less well than women.
Final thing - time is a great healer. Processing your grief and finding new meaning and purpose will need it.
Take care. Dglc.
He suffered a pulmonary embolism - a blood clot where part breaks off and hits the heart, causing heart failure (my layman's understanding). In short, had a fit/seizure in front of us and passed on the way to the hospital. If you are like me and mom, you'll be in a daze, a bit numb and still in shock.
It took me a long time to get over it. I strongly suggest seeing your GP or seeking bereavement counselling if needed.
My mom found herself not knowing to do with herself especially - like you care had become her world. Her two best friends dragged her our of the house and took her to various groups and classes (anything from line dancing to gardening). That helped her get back on her feet and find some rhythm etc.
Hopefully you've got a few mates you can reach out to? Not sure of your age (my Mom was/is retired so folk have time and us fellas can do friendships less well than women.
Final thing - time is a great healer. Processing your grief and finding new meaning and purpose will need it.
Take care. Dglc.
I don’t know you Pilks but my heart goes out to you. What you’ve been through would be hugely difficult for anybody in any circumstance. Hang in there and like many others have advised on here, try to find ways of connecting with other people where you can. You aren’t alone in this even though I’m sure it feels that way. All the best mate.
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