The Single Dads Thread

[Frang]

Great thread dad's..


Dad's?

 

[magicjuan]

I think we might have given it a go a while back and I can't remember how it went, many of the answers include defecating and violence I suspect.

and kitchens, always seemed to be kitchens to iirc....kinky

 

[Deleted member 28206]

I don’t know where to begin with my situation but Lees Mrs is really fit iirc

 

[marnie]

Have you ever thought of starting a Dear Bungle, thread I for one would definitely ask you for help on future problems.

Yep , he really helped me on my problems FFS lol lol

 

[LydiateLee]

I don’t know where to begin with my situation but Lees Mrs is really fit iirc

Haha she is! Thanks for recognising

 

[Deleted member 28206]

I’m paying attention to this thread Lee, similar to my position, other than I’m alone and have zero intention of getting another woman involved. She’s moved on( met someone)and i found out via my daughter. Which was nice as you can imagine.

 

[Frang]

I’m paying attention to this thread Lee, similar to my position, other than I’m alone and have zero intention of getting another woman involved. She’s moved on( met someone)and i found out via my daughter. Which was nice as you can imagine.

That's what hookers are there for bry!

 

[Deleted member 28206]

That's what hookers are there for bry!

 

[robbo1957]

I went through something similar many years ago. I had 3 kids and told them all i loved them and would be honest and answer all their questions honestly if they needed to know. I turned up every time i was supposed to even when they weren't " available ". In the end all 3 decided they wanted to live with me. I have 3 grown up well rounded blue noses
Sometimes its hard all i would say is be there for your kids.
Best of luck and just keep smiling.

 

[Yarrgh]

Have you ever thought of starting a Dear Bungle, thread I for one would definitely ask you for help on future problems.

Are you in a tight hole? Are you in a sticky situation? Well let Uncle @Bungle get involved! A problem shared is a problem enjoyed by the forum.

 

[Nobby Nobbs]

....good luck to you all, nothing better than being a Dad.

Or granddad.

 

[The Legend of Southall]

I am hoping it's ok to create this thread for any single dads to discuss issues they may be facing.

Personally I have a very difficult ex-wife who seems to struggle to move on fully despite having a new partner and baby. She plays the victim to people despite nothing out of the ordinary happening before we split, tries to find reason to hate me when there isn't any. I am a good dad and have always been there for my kids since the split 4.5 years ago, I think she actually hates that fact.

It's just a very stressful thing to deal with and am hoping others can relate and offer some advice. I am engaged now and just want to look forwards but it's crap having that constant reminder there that I can't fully escape from because of the kids connection.

The bit I struggle with most is how she talks about me in front of my girls. Kids are easily influenced and I don't want all of my hard work being the dad they deserve to be ruined by her poison and constant victim stance on life.

I haven't read the replies, but as a child my parents divorced. My Mum was constantly, through out our childhood, bad mouthing and talking down about my Dad, his new wife, and step kids.

All I can offer you is my own experience and opinions of this, but never underestimate your Children. For starters you're their Dad. Nothing will ever change that, and it carries the power of unconditional love. When I was at my youngest, it did have an effect on me. However, whenever me and my Sister where away from our Mother and with our Dad, we found a caring, loving Father. Not a good for nothing who doesn't care for us. Over time it was our experiences that brought out the lies our Mother told. Once we reached our teenage years it became a constant battle. She used to hate us 'making excuses' for our Father. Looking back on it now, it's clear he wasn't perfect, but her constant attacks made him so to us. More to spite my Mother more than anything else.

Children absorb far more than you realise. So as long as you're open and honest with them, they'll soon see the truth for the lies. The Mother of your Children seems to be on a very dangerous path. There is no saying how much they might resent her in later life.

I realise all this is anecdotal, but hopefully it might offer some insight in to how your Children may be processing it all. I will say, it was my Dad's approach that we could come to him with anything and find someone who'd listen, and perhaps offer advice if we wanted, that eventually led us to revealing what our Mother used to say. Interestingly, he never gave any of the vitriol back. If anything he would defend her where possible. To me, at least, it proved to be the final nail in the coffin of my Mums lies.

 

[LydiateLee]

I haven't read the replies, but as a child my parents divorced. My Mum was constantly, through out our childhood, bad mouthing and talking down about my Dad, his new wife, and step kids.

All I can offer you is my own experience and opinions of this, but never underestimate your Children. For starters you're their Dad. Nothing will ever change that, and it carries the power of unconditional love. When I was at my youngest, it did have an effect on me. However, whenever me and my Sister where away from our Mother and with our Dad, we found a caring, loving Father. Not a good for nothing who doesn't care for us. Over time it was our experiences that brought out the lies our Mother told. Once we reached our teenage years it became a constant battle. She used to hate us 'making excuses' for our Father. Looking back on it now, it's clear he wasn't perfect, but her constant attacks made him so to us. More to spite my Mother more than anything else.

Children absorb far more than you realise. So as long as you're open and honest with them, they'll soon see the truth for the lies. The Mother of your Children seems to be on a very dangerous path. There is no saying how much they might resent her in later life.

I realise all this is anecdotal, but hopefully it might offer some insight in to how your Children may be processing it all. I will say, it was my Dad's approach that we could come to him with anything and find someone who'd listen, and perhaps offer advice if we wanted, that eventually led us to revealing what our Mother used to say. Interestingly, he never gave any of the vitriol back. If anything he would defend her where possible. To me, at least, it proved to be the final nail in the coffin of my Mums lies.

Mate reading that made me quite emotional. Thank you so much for sharing this, it's given me real optimism that what I am doing is enough to make sure her actions don't harm our relationship in the future.

 

[Bungle]

Mate reading that made me quite emotional. Thank you so much for sharing this, it's given me real optimism that what I am doing is enough to make sure her actions don't harm our relationship in the future.

It really is quite simple mate, just keep it civil, be polite and bite your tongue if she says something that winds you up, let the kids see that you're making every effort possible to be the better human being. The when she turns her back on you behead her and take her head to 5-a-side with you for a kickabout.

 

[LydiateLee]

It really is quite simple mate, just keep it civil, be polite and bite your tongue if she says something that winds you up, let the kids see that you're making every effort possible to be the better human being. The when she turns her back on you behead her and take her head to 5-a-side with you for a kickabout.

That also made me quite emotional haha!!