BarryBlueboy
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I'm not really sure i should even be writing this,Firstly i dont have any vast knowledge of anything( my fields was in sports coaching/sports development), i'm not a "religious" buff, i've read maybe a chapter of the bible, a page or two from Buddhism, and the only time i've seen a Quran (the Islamic book) is in a movie.
Secondly, My English is terrible, writing, grammar and spelling.
but, i just thought this (what I'm about to say) should be known more, by more people as it has helped understand and changed my way of thinking.
Maybe some of you will just think its nonsense or nonessential, and that's fine I'm not forcing this way of thinking on anybody.
That said...
A major part of being depressed or unhappy (and anxious) is through the way we think, or thought, as the case may be. Now you're asking yourself, 'what the difference between thought and thinking?'you are because you just read it and that's good, now you're thinking.
The difference between the two is, one is volunteer, and one is not.
'well,how can one be volunteer and one not, if they are in the same head?'
lets look at the question, "how can one be volunteer and one not?" and here we find the answer. There are two entities inside your mind the "thinker" and the "thought-er". The thinker, is the part we use for present moment things, where we need our attention, the inspiration and motivator amongst other things.
The thoughts are the problem area, we drift around in a haze of our own thoughts, and most of the time they are very negative, going from one worrying moment to worrying moment. Many of us don't even realize this happens, we think about past wrongs that has happened to us, or the future, whats going to happen to me. why do we put ourselves through this day in day out, its as if we enjoy being unhappy, do you enjoy being unhappy, depressed?
however there is nothing i can do or say to you that will help you stop this, you can read all the religious, philosophy, psychology and self help books in the world and they won't help, they're like using a road map, the map wont get u there you physical have to go, Its the same with the books, they are just road signs, there are no 7 steps to happiness, its only through the realization of the two entities that we come to see that we can of control what we think. You'll start to catch you're self drifting into negative thinking or thought-ing.
But how can you change your thinking? once you realize you are drifting, think of something that is'nt unpleasant, for me its food shopping (sometimes), although this isn't everybody's idea of a good time, it helps to understand about living in the present moment which is another part to dissolving the "thought".
you also have to understand that being unhappy is not the same as being sad. being sad is a normal emotion, its the other end of the emotional scale, and its ok to be sad (it can even be inspirational), as long as you're not unhappy. unhappiness ,this includes physical world too, leads to depression which is not normal emotional stats, after all who would want to be depressed most of their lives? if you are unhappy there are only two options, either totally except of the situation, or change.
anyways, i hope this can be helpful, it has help me, although i catch myself slipping, its happens less and less and feel a great weight lifted. I am willing to try to help in any way i can and please ask any questions you have or leave a comment, and i would refer you to Eckhart Tolle's books and PDF's, you tube videos..
thanks for read.
Secondly, My English is terrible, writing, grammar and spelling.
but, i just thought this (what I'm about to say) should be known more, by more people as it has helped understand and changed my way of thinking.
Maybe some of you will just think its nonsense or nonessential, and that's fine I'm not forcing this way of thinking on anybody.
That said...
A major part of being depressed or unhappy (and anxious) is through the way we think, or thought, as the case may be. Now you're asking yourself, 'what the difference between thought and thinking?'you are because you just read it and that's good, now you're thinking.
The difference between the two is, one is volunteer, and one is not.
'well,how can one be volunteer and one not, if they are in the same head?'
lets look at the question, "how can one be volunteer and one not?" and here we find the answer. There are two entities inside your mind the "thinker" and the "thought-er". The thinker, is the part we use for present moment things, where we need our attention, the inspiration and motivator amongst other things.
The thoughts are the problem area, we drift around in a haze of our own thoughts, and most of the time they are very negative, going from one worrying moment to worrying moment. Many of us don't even realize this happens, we think about past wrongs that has happened to us, or the future, whats going to happen to me. why do we put ourselves through this day in day out, its as if we enjoy being unhappy, do you enjoy being unhappy, depressed?
however there is nothing i can do or say to you that will help you stop this, you can read all the religious, philosophy, psychology and self help books in the world and they won't help, they're like using a road map, the map wont get u there you physical have to go, Its the same with the books, they are just road signs, there are no 7 steps to happiness, its only through the realization of the two entities that we come to see that we can of control what we think. You'll start to catch you're self drifting into negative thinking or thought-ing.
But how can you change your thinking? once you realize you are drifting, think of something that is'nt unpleasant, for me its food shopping (sometimes), although this isn't everybody's idea of a good time, it helps to understand about living in the present moment which is another part to dissolving the "thought".
you also have to understand that being unhappy is not the same as being sad. being sad is a normal emotion, its the other end of the emotional scale, and its ok to be sad (it can even be inspirational), as long as you're not unhappy. unhappiness ,this includes physical world too, leads to depression which is not normal emotional stats, after all who would want to be depressed most of their lives? if you are unhappy there are only two options, either totally except of the situation, or change.
anyways, i hope this can be helpful, it has help me, although i catch myself slipping, its happens less and less and feel a great weight lifted. I am willing to try to help in any way i can and please ask any questions you have or leave a comment, and i would refer you to Eckhart Tolle's books and PDF's, you tube videos..
thanks for read.
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