How Many Marriages Actually End In Happily Ever After?

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johnnydawg68

johnnydawg68

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Ok lads just read this article on Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/samara-oshea/marriage-has-a-25-chance-_b_1568936.html

Essentially it claims that only 25% of marriages have a shot at being "happy" (the other 75% being occupied by either divorce or unhappily married people) which the author defines as "Two people who've been married for 25 years or more and still take an active interest in each other. They spend time together, genuinely enjoy each other's company, and don't keep super-sized secrets from one another (occasional white lies are okay). They are together purposefully rather than practically".

So as someone who has never been married, I always have a nagging voice in my head saying "What have you missed, or what are you missing"?

So what say you married lids on here? Is the concept of lifelong marriage a dated concept? Do most couples end up resenting each other but stay married for finances, or kids, or just because they're afraid of being on their own? How many on here have been married for a long time (say 10 or more years) and are 100% happy about it?
 

My mum and Dad are happily married for coming on 20 years soon.

They go on walks together and that the weirdos.
 
johnnydawg68 said:
Ok lads just read this article on Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/samara-oshea/marriage-has-a-25-chance-_b_1568936.html

Essentially it claims that only 25% of marriages have a shot at being "happy" (the other 75% being occupied by either divorce or unhappily married people) which the author defines as "Two people who've been married for 25 years or more and still take an active interest in each other. They spend time together, genuinely enjoy each other's company, and don't keep super-sized secrets from one another (occasional white lies are okay). They are together purposefully rather than practically".

So as someone who has never been married, I always have a nagging voice in my head saying "What have you missed, or what are you missing"?

So what say you married lids on here? Is the concept of lifelong marriage a dated concept? Do most couples end up resenting each other but stay married for finances, or kids, or just because they're afraid of being on their own? How many on here have been married for a long time (say 10 or more years) and are 100% happy about it?
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I've been married for 19 years and am happily married still. I think what is most often missed by people who leap blindly into marriage is that it isn't something that happens without work on the part of both husband and wife (Caveo take note). Its a partnership built on a commitment to a long term friendship. Therefore with Marriage (like any other friendship) there are highs and lows, but unlike a friendship outside marriage, you are living through every second of the highs and lows which creates an emotional rollercoaster. The roller coaster gets much worse when children come along, we have 3 and love them to bits but **** do they cause conflict (the little bastards).

If anyone comes on and replies that they are 100% happy with their marriage I would say they are lying through their teeth or in need of medical treatment.
 

Caveo said:
Seemed like a good idea at the time....now.....not so much -_-
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And herein lies the discovery that every man who ever strays comes to.

Now, while you've still got the chance, realise what you've got and work at your marriage.
 
I'm getting married next year, I guess it does depend on the person you are and how compatible a couple are. Known mine for quite a long time and have put up with each other and had a baby so marriage seems the logical step. I dont think you can ever be 100% happy, but a fairly high % is good enough I think, we all have flaws but if you happy then that goes a long way I think
 
my parents recently celebrated(?) their 45th year. My dad says he could have killed her at least 4 times and still be a free man.
 
bluejock said:
And herein lies the discovery that every man who ever strays comes to.

Now, while you've still got the chance, realise what you've got and work at your marriage.
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tbf a lot women cheat too. Trust me. But it does beg the question (again one I can't answer because I've never been married), if you're at the point of cheating, why not chuck it in?
 

Ian Wilsons hair gel said:
I'm getting married next year, I guess it does depend on the person you are and how compatible a couple are. Known mine for quite a long time and have put up with each other and had a baby so marriage seems the logical step. I dont think you can ever be 100% happy, but a fairly high % is good enough I think, we all have flaws but if you happy then that goes a long way I think
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How old are you if you don't mind my asking? Because it also seems ludicrous to me to get married at a young age and expect that you'll still be compatible in 10, 20, 30 years time? I don't mean you specifically, I mean anyone.
 
johnnydawg68 said:
tbf a lot women cheat too. Trust me. But it does beg the question (again one I can't answer because I've never been married), if you're at the point of cheating, why not chuck it in?
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Agree, I have allways said this, if your not happy then get out it causes a lot less heart ache at the end of the day
 
johnnydawg68 said:
How old are you if you don't mind my asking? Because it also seems ludicrous to me to get married at a young age and expect that you'll still be compatible in 10, 20, 30 years time? I don't mean you specifically, I mean anyone.
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I dont mind at all, I'm 38 my girlfriend is 36, we have known each other for over 20 years, used to date when we were younger, stayed mates and got back together about 3 years ago
 
I'm not married but have been with my partner for coming up to 19 years this year.... we have had our fair share of ups and downs over the years but basically it's been good.... we spend a lot of time together but also have our own hobbies and friends as I think it's important that you have something just for yourself... for both parties..... considering I was only 18 when I met her I have spent over half of my life with her...................... oh and Azzuri,,, going for walks is not weird at all lad.... it's spending quality time together and they are probably having loads of outdoor sex ...( try sleeping tonight with that implanted in your head ha ha ).
 

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