Does Death of a Loved One Get Any Easier?

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Time is a great healer and you live your own life and move on, I have lost a Mother and a close Grandfather, but they are not around any more and there's nothing to do about it, so dwelling doesn't help, moving forward and letting time do it's work always does.
 

As time goes on you still feel pain but unlike the early days you remember all the good times and happy memories you shared with whoever it was, well happened like that for me anyway.
 
Rugby Toffee, my Dad died 18 years ago, quite suddenly in hospital, before I was able to give him something I always wanted to do - grandchildren.

18 years on, I miss his humour and wisdom, yet I know he is somewhere safe, looking down on me and my children, that helps a huge deal.

Death is part of life, but what is more important is to live life to the fullest, in memory of those that passed away, those that loved, and were loved.

Live your life to the maximum and your Dad will watch from above, proud of his son (or daughter), that's the finest legacy he could ever leave.

Thoughts and prayers are with you xx
 
I haven't lost anyone yet, but it's coming and I dread it. So I have nothing to offer except to let you know I care and hope your burden is a bit easier more often than not.
 
Thanks to all of you for your kind words and thoughts.......

Got through the day , hard and I don't want to sound dramatic etc...but I bought him a pint as usual ....but all I could do was shed tears and wish he was there to drink it. I suppose a lot of it is wishing I could have done , said or showed more to him when he was alive.

But thanks again, appreaciated big time
 

My Dad died 43 years ago. I was 11 years old. As time goes on it does get a little easier to bear. I remember him at odd times. He died just before Christmas, and for most of my life I would not think about Christmas untill after his anniversary. It was not that long ago I allowed myself to put decorations up earlier. Now I can, but it's still a thoughtful time. I still have things of his, some of his tools that I still use around the house. It's helpful to know when I use those tools that he is still a part of my life. It made me smile reading your last post because I always buy my dad a drink on my birthday. So heres to you and our dads, hears to the good times. Cheers, Mike.
 
we recently remembered the 10th anniversary of my Dad's death (the circumstances of his death were not nice). Initially it was my Mum's grief that upset me as she missed him so badly but time does heal. I tear up once in a while when I remember him and still hold lots of love and respect for him (despite thim supporting the ****e) .. it does get easier with time but I dodubt it ever goes away.
 
Time allows you to move forward from tragedy in most cases, but as others have said you will always have those reminders that hit you hard, and inevitable regrets which you needlessly beat yourself up over, the best thing you can do is talk about it to someone, it will make you feel like you an cope that little bit better
 
No.

But over time it doesn't get any worse, it may feel it does but after days, weeks, months, sometimes years you will find that time has taken the edge offit.
You can still put your finger in the fire and wallow but that would not be what the loved one would've wanted
 
No, I've lost a child,and both parents in a short space of time.The pain still cripples me at times,but I'm a stronger person for it, and the same will apply to you given time.

It's a tired old cliche, but just take each day as it comes.
 

Vim Fuego said:
No, I've lost a child,and both parents in a short space of time.The pain still cripples me at times,but I'm a stronger person for it, and the same will apply to you given time.

It's a tired old cliche, but just take each day as it comes.
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Jesus.

Sorry to hear that Vim mate.
 
Vim Fuego said:
No, I've lost a child,and both parents in a short space of time.The pain still cripples me at times,but I'm a stronger person for it, and the same will apply to you given time.

It's a tired old cliche, but just take each day as it comes.
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I had no idea mate. I can't think of anything worse than something happening to my daughter.

Sorry to hear pal.
 
Thanks lads, it's not something I readily share, but I hate to see anyone grieve for a loved one, and if I can 'move on ' then there's hope for the OP.
 
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