Are you whipped?

[CahillsCornerFlag]

Or to be more PC, who is the dominant in your relationship?

Do you think its healthy for it to be the man? Does it change after marriage and kids are thrown into the equation?

A couple of my mates in long term relationships seem fairly under the thumb, and have to ask permission to do anything, which quite frankly seems absurd, especially as the females in said relationships arrange things without asking.

Of course, I don't want to generalise, so lets see what truths GOT uncovers. We're all friends here, no judgement shall be passed. Question applies to both sexes.

 

[Username]

I won't get with a bird who is obsessive so i can't relate, my cousin and her fella would never cheat on one another and yet argue about going out and stuff on a regular basis, i think they're mad.

 

[McQueen]

Said I wear the trousers because I decide on stuff like what colour a room will be painted etc. but I'd never expect him to ask for my permission to go out with his mates or anything. Thats just weird.

 

[steken1]

Neither TBH. Birds quite sound. Been out with some right oddballs though.

Dont know why anyone goes out with a bird who always on thier case, or vice versa.

 

[Allezfan]

I'd never expect him to ask for my permission to go out with his mates or anything. Thats just weird.

Personally, I expect to be told if he's going to be going out, just so I know like. But unless something big is going on like my dad's died and I really needed him with me, I wouldn't dream of stopping him.

 

[McQueen]

Personally, I expect to be told if he's going to be going out, just so I know like. But unless something big is going on like my dad's died and I really needed him with me, I wouldn't dream of stopping him.

Yeah same here, like to be told but wouldn't want to be asked if that makes sense.

 

[Huyton Layne]

I have a **** job and she earns about 3 times as much as me right now. I don't do shît besides play footy and have a few beers afterwards where she's not involved. Went out for Halloween on Saturday without her and she was in a mood for fkin forever. Right now i'm not gonna try to extend my freedoms otherwise she'll get on at me about getting another job and it'll blow up big time. Once I'm no longer a kept man I'm gonna try to have a life but right now I'm ok with having a house, two cars, a good pc and a decent pc, a ps3 and digital cable with the footy channels.

 

[CahillsCornerFlag]

Personally, I expect to be told if he's going to be going out, just so I know like. But unless something big is going on like my dad's died and I really needed him with me, I wouldn't dream of stopping him.

Does a simple 'I'm off out to the pub on friday' do the job for you? or would you rather it was posed in a 'is it ok if i go to the pub friday' type way. One of my mates in particular does the latter constantly.

 

[Allezfan]

Does a simple 'I'm off out to the pub on friday' do the job for you? or would you rather it was posed in a 'is it ok if i go to the pub friday' type way. One of my mates in particular does the latter constantly.

The thing is is both can mean 'I'm off out' and both can mean 'is it ok?'. I used to date someone who would always ask for permission for stuff he would do anyway whether or not you agreed to it.

Normally it's 'are we doing anything this friday?' 'no' 'good, I said I'd be out to the pub', anyway.

 

[Foot Long Hot Dog]

You've got make sure you break them in properly, if you lose control of the reigns early doors then you're goosed for life.

There's usually a period of about 5-7 years were they'll look to rear up every now & again, but make sure that you've got a firm hand on the trousers at these key points & you'll soon regain control.

Ultimately, if they won't have it & lead you a dogs life, build a new patio

 

[steken1]

Does a simple 'I'm off out to the pub on friday' do the job for you? or would you rather it was posed in a 'is it ok if i go to the pub friday' type way. One of my mates in particular does the latter constantly.

IMO men who are always "is it OK?" types usually lose the womans respect by acting that way.

He ends up on his mums couch and she's in the campanile gettin her head bummed off by big pete the security guard off Farmfoods.

 

[CahillsCornerFlag]

IMO men who are always "is it OK?" types usually lose the womans respect by acting that way.

He ends up on his mums couch and she's in the campanile gettin her head bummed off by big pete the security guard off Farmfoods.

You can see that in a few couples, the woman almost wants the man to take a firmer role. Being more assertive might stop any Big Pete scenarios.

Also AF, good tactic that, rule out the other possibilities. Whats more, if you're always asking for permission it makes you look a burke to your mates. Your being considerate tactic is a fine one to deploy.

 

[Royal]

IMO men who are always "is it OK?" types usually lose the womans respect by acting that way.

He ends up on his mums couch and she's in the campanile gettin her head bummed off by big pete the security guard off Farmfoods.

This. I learned this advice from an old scottish lady in ASDA who saw some guy being his wifes complete bitch and she fumed to me for a while about it saying "remember, a mans a man, and if your wife wants a lift while the footys on, tell her 'love, the footys on, get the bus"

I was about 15 at the time.

best advice I've ever had.

 

[Muggins]

"You don't mind if I go out Friday?"

It's more of a question with an answer you want in it.

 

[steken1]

This. I learned this advice from an old scottish lady in ASDA who saw some guy being his wifes complete bitch and she fumed to me for a while about it saying "remember, a mans a man, and if your wife wants a lift while the footys on, tell her 'love, the footys on, get the bus"

I was about 15 at the time.

best advice I've ever had.

Haha.