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Hayee

Hayee

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Right, a few of you may have read my friend has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and I want an honest opinion/advice on how to help her.
She found out yesterday its at stage 2B and too big for surgery so she'll need chemo and internal radiotherapy.
What can I expect to happen to her, side effect wise? - how can I help? And how well does this treatment work?
She's just turned 24 and neither of us know much.
The macmillan nurses have been superb but I haven't asked questions as its not my place when she's present - its her time to query things.
I just wanna help my mate so any advice - medical or not, will be greatly appreciated.
You can pm me if you do not wish to reply publically.
Thanks in advance :)
 

Hayee said:
Right, a few of you may have read my friend has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and I want an honest opinion/advice on how to help her.
She found out yesterday its at stage 2B and too big for surgery so she'll need chemo and internal radiotherapy.
What can I expect to happen to her, side effect wise? - how can I help? And how well does this treatment work?
She's just turned 24 and neither of us know much.
The macmillan nurses have been superb but I haven't asked questions as its not my place when she's present - its her time to query things.
I just wanna help my mate so any advice - medical or not, will be greatly appreciated.
You can pm me if you do not wish to reply publically.
Thanks in advance :)
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I'm afraid I can't be of much help, but sorry to hear that. Best of luck to her and family and friends.
 
So sorry for your mate. My mum beat bowel cancer and my mate beat breast cancer so first of all don't give up.
Unfortuantely chemo is horrible it will leave her feeling sick and down for days afterwards and she will probably lose her hair. Basically the radiotherapy will kill the malignant cells and this effects the rest of the body too.
Be realistic but do everything to keep her positive.
Good luck.
 
The chemo drugs that they're planning on giving her don't generally result in hair loss luckily. Thankyou BlueLlama, its nice to hear positive cases :)
 

Hayee said:
Right, a few of you may have read my friend has been diagnosed with cervical cancer and I want an honest opinion/advice on how to help her.
She found out yesterday its at stage 2B and too big for surgery so she'll need chemo and internal radiotherapy.
What can I expect to happen to her, side effect wise? - how can I help? And how well does this treatment work?
She's just turned 24 and neither of us know much.
The macmillan nurses have been superb but I haven't asked questions as its not my place when she's present - its her time to query things.
I just wanna help my mate so any advice - medical or not, will be greatly appreciated.
You can pm me if you do not wish to reply publically.
Thanks in advance :)
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icant help much either but so sorry to hear about your friend!

just be the best friend that you are! and be there for her when she feels [Poor language removed]! everyone needs someone for support especially at a time like that!

best of luck to your friend and all that are close to her!
 
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You have my respect and if I prayed I would say 1 for your friend.

Will get us all in the end, horrible, horrible illness.
 
The main thing is to be there for her when she needs you, because she WILL need you. The side effects can vary in different people. I would advise her to change her diet before she goes for treatment. Try to eat lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, as it does seem to help to prepare your body before hand.

She will most certainly lose her hair. She will also have problems with fatigue and possibly her skin hurting and feeling itchy. She could also have problems with her mouth, as it does seem to effect your gums quite badly. I know i was left feeling awful for days afterwards. The pain for me was mostly in my toes and my fingers, but also in my arms and legs.

I wish her well with her recovery. They seem to have caught it early enough for her to have a good chance of a full recovery.
 
Firstly, she is young and time is on her side, not the most severe type I believe, so big thanks to it being detected now.
Secondly, this is the wrong forum, there are hundreds if not thousands of cancer support websites/forums out there. They can provide you with a lot of the back ground reading you both need so that you are fully prepared when you meet the consultants.
If she is anything like someone that was close to me, she will need both friends and family rallying round her to support her and be there in the inevitable dark times.
Prayers and best wishes to you both.
 

Not much help, but best of luck, thoughts & prayers to all involved.

Just be there, through good & bad.

Sincerest best wishes.
 
Agreed. The best thing that you can do for her is be there for her when she needs you. Let her do all the talking while you do all the listening.
 
Best of wishes to her, and to yourself mate.

I've got a friend recently diagnosed myself, it's a scary time but like others have said, just be there as much as you can be.
 
Thankyou all for youe help, I know she'll beat this but it'll be hard. I will keep you up to date with her treatment and hopefully the all clear!
 
I wish you both the best, Hayee.
I hope everything goes well with her and you, cause she'll probably need you now more than ever and that's probably all you can do - just be there for her. (y)
 

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