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    If you could spend one hour with another forum member

    A boringly serious answer, but a few people who have tried their best to help with the rather dire mental health issues I've been and am still suffering following my recent catastrophic bereavement. They know who they are. Evertonians are good people. I knew that but it's been reinforced. For...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    Sorry to people wondering where I was. I've been really making a positive effort to see the advantages to things (even small things like a gaming session at a mate's house) which I couldn't do before. I say effort, because that step forward led to a great leap back this week. I picked up the...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    I have never felt lower than tonight. Ever. I suddenly had the realisation that if the same happened to me as happened to my beloved Janet I would lie undiscovered for a week or more, decaying. I have no kids or close family, nobody calls me regularly or comes to the house, the neighbours only...
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    When Did Footballers Stop Tucking There Shirts In?

    Robin Friday. Coolest 'untucker' ever. The man made George Best look like Michael Owen
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    It was Janis Joplin to my mind. Or if not, then Suzi Quatro
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    Thanks people for wondering how I am. I'm still here, but struggling a bit. I've got through some practicalities, I've claimed for UC and I have a car being delivered tomorrow - a 20-year old Ford SportKA for £1500, but it will keep me mobile, and I've paid for it and got a good insurance policy...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    You've got it, that's me! Normally Steve, but Sunday name used for the fundraiser...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    I've had a bad day today. Last night I felt just a little better for a little while, I went round to a friend's, had a chat and played a board game, and enjoyed it. When I got home about 1am, I put my weekly radio show together as normal, watched some TV with a few beers, and I even started...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    I am in Garswood, so I believe not far from yourself... The final time of death was called in Wigan Infirmary
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    I haven't posted in a few days, sadly because things have gone from bad to unimaginably worse for me. I don't think I even want to bring this up on a mainstream thread. I got the death certificate yesterday and saw the bank about Janet's finances. I knew following her death that she had been...
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    There's still a world turning out there?? I've had the stress from hell this last few days. She used to do the finances, as that was her 'thing', being otherwise trapped in a chair the whole day, and I found out that the savings account was in her name, so without a death certificate yet the...
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    My wife died suddenly, and I'm not doing well...

    Yes, of course. Her name was Janet
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    Messymascot's faith in humanity and ginger safe haven

    Be careful what you wish for about me posting as all I seem to be doing at the moment is going from one person to another and pouring my heart out, just hoping something will help. I must seem such a pain! I really don't know what the universe can have in store for me next. After losing three...
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    My wife died suddenly, and I'm not doing well...

    Trouble with pets is that we have such a strong bonded history with them. She was always a dog person, and when we moved in together I inherited her Chow Chow dog. We always had more chows, until recent years when we had three at once. Dogs were her 'children' she always said. They all died in...
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    My wife died suddenly, and I'm not doing well...

    Huge thanks to everyone who has rallied round and commented here, and to the PMs (I WILL reply, honest!). I'm not sure when this is ever meant to get easier, but at this point in time I just cannot imagine how it will. The biggest issue I think is that after so many years in the roles of carer...
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