I give myself a monthly spends allowance, I work away for 4 or 6 days at a time so don’t spend anything whilst at work, however, when I get home she has never been shopping as she “just has a sandwich when you’re not here” so the first thing I do is go out and go a shop, I’ll take her car as “I haven’t had chance to get petrol this week, it’s not on the red yet” so I’ll fill her car up with petrol. This happens 2 or 3 times a month so inevitably towards the end of the month I’ll take an extra bit of spends out the bank.... all hell breaks loose then because I spend too much money lol lol lol