Pet peave of mine It's absolute poison (social media) my older kids all had tears through it people unliking and unfollowing them, bullying etc. I feel so sorry for the kids these days their lives are run through it. I once had to send a fella home from work because he'd forgotten his phone it was like he'd forgotten a limb he couldn't operate without his notifications. A friend is a principal in a school he's scathing about it, he used to worry about the kids 9-3 and make sure there was no bullying but it's 24hrs a day now the bullying with the social media. Every morning he's anticipating tears from kids from online bullying and fall outs with other kids from the night before. Unfortunately it's not just kids now adults at it too.,all lying about their perfect made up lives. It's so obvious to see too that if your life was so perfect and fulfilling you wouldn't have the time or desire to be posting all day. The only thing I've ever done is this site and I wrestled about signing up but I love Everton and don't live in England and mods made me sign up or I couldn't view content anymore after many years of following - which I think mods should change - but you can even see it on here at times people trying hard to get liked by others they think are popular, but these people they're trying to be liked by are never off the site 24hrs a day. It's sad maybe I'm too old but don't understand it. Good luck with it mate,and your daughter and all those that struggle with it. I just wish people could see its not real - its pure fantasy.500 or 1000 friends/followers hahaha. I don't think I've had 20 real friends my whole life. Life's what you make of it yourself. Life's for living not dreaming... LIVE IT... LEARN FROM IT... (even if you've to keep picking yourself up) BUT NEVER EVER GIVE UP... YOU'LL OWN IT.
Can you book any holidays or anything just so you get a break from work and a rest? Everyone is acting different to the current situation mate. It's just a weird time.
You are actually much better off deleting social media mate, it's a fake network, people wanting and craving love and attention. I did away with Facebook and was honestly the best thing i did. Keep the head up.
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David09, your post really resonates with me. I've just spent 8 years as a psychy nurse in an inpatient CAHMS unit. There is nothing quite like a teenager - especially girls - going through a confidence crisis. I'm too fat, I'm not pretty like her, I have no boyfriend, no friends and my clothes aren't nice enough. You and I know that particular world is very very particular to teenage girls. I used to say to the kids, between the ages of 12 and 16 you'll do anything to fit in, to be like " them". From 17 onwards the girls especially will do anything to look different, in order to attract attention to them. It's a horrible time being 15, not yet an adult and too old to be a child. You can tell her she's beautiful, she'll meet a nice boy or girl and that looks don't matter, because in the real world, people struggle to live and it's hard. In her world it's different and the smallest thing means so much, that spot is massive, her boobs are too small and mum and dad " don't get it". The best thing to do m8 is to normalize it, that it happens to everyone and that she will come through it, and pretty soon she'll have bills, food and rent to pay. The " real world" Like I say m8 normalize it, reassure her you'll be there for her but re affirm it is a phase she will come through. I also mentioning she try to form like minded friends like her, because you can be sure of one thing, there will be other girls feeling exactly how she is. It's hard as parents to see our kids in mental turmoil but all we can do is tell them we love them and we'll be there for them - whatever. Good luck bud.
I'm not sure mate my wife takes something that sounds like that, she stopped them too cos she thought she didn't need them worst thing she ever done - back on them now for life. Loads on here take Sertraline they'll advice you better mate won't be long before one of them pop in. All the best mate.
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Joe, Sertraline is prescribed for many things, including anxiety, stress and OCD but predominantly depression. General rule of thumb with any psychotropic medication, give them time to work - usually 4-6 weeks - and don't come off them without seeing a mental health professional first. I say to ALL the people I work with don't take any medication you feel isn't working, but like I say, see a professional first. There are plenty of other alternatives to try which your GP may offer you. Stick to max doses - 200mg for Sertraline. Your GP may titrate you down, gradually decrease the dose. There are loads of side effects but everyone is different, and people often experience different ones. Not sleeping, too much sleeping, nausia and sweats to name a few. Oddly for being a anti depressant, having more suicidal thoughts is a common one. Where once you didn't have the motivation to kill yourself, the meds increase your moods just enough to follow your plans through. Please, if you have more suicidal thoughts seek help straight away. There are lots of people who really do care. One more piece of advice and it's important. Never take anyone's meds. They may have different tolerance levels to you and your case / circumstances are totally different to theirs. See your GP m8 tell them your struggling and they WILL try to help. Good luck Joe.
