USABlue
Player Valuation: £70m
Cheers for checking in mate! Uni's going decent academically but in a bit of a rough patch otherwise, working on some things so hopefully thinks will improve in the coming weeks.
Durham Toffee
Shameless Wool
I'm low as hell lately. Fed up of the low-lifes around and about in the local area who seem intent on keying cars, breaking into cars, vandalising gardens and generally making a flipping nuisance of themselves.
My wife has told me to forget about it; that there are more important things in life and that, as long as we're all healthy and happy, that's what truly matters.
I definitely agree with her, but I'm having serious anger management issues with it of late and I'm worried I'm becoming very distant with them both recently - disgruntled at everything, short tempered, cynical, pessimistic.
It's making me feel very unhappy with life in general and has me thinking in quite negative ways about the world I've brought my daughter into.
My wife told me I had changed lately and my daughter said I "didn't look like a happy daddy" the other day. That broke my heart.
I want to be shot of this feeling of constant anger and resentment, but it's not easy.
My wife has told me to forget about it; that there are more important things in life and that, as long as we're all healthy and happy, that's what truly matters.
I definitely agree with her, but I'm having serious anger management issues with it of late and I'm worried I'm becoming very distant with them both recently - disgruntled at everything, short tempered, cynical, pessimistic.
It's making me feel very unhappy with life in general and has me thinking in quite negative ways about the world I've brought my daughter into.
My wife told me I had changed lately and my daughter said I "didn't look like a happy daddy" the other day. That broke my heart.
I want to be shot of this feeling of constant anger and resentment, but it's not easy.
Kiwi
Say NO to Ginger Managers
Glad to do it mate. My first exam is in less than 24hours and it is the dealbreaker for whether or not I make it into next year, so I'm fretting hugely about it. Likewise haven't found a job for the break so that too is something I'm worrying about.
Keep working at things and they'll turn out ok.
BiggyRat
Player Valuation: £35m
Couldn't agree more. Initially, it can be hard to find a good GP that genuinely wants to track a patients progress. If you find one, stick with them. I was lucky enough, in that regard, to find a guy that actually prompts me to get things done with specialists etc. If I mention a problem then its a case of 'Right, I'll send you to this Dr and then we'll monitor this & that'. Every visit, he's going back through my past visits and questioning where I am with things.
Keep looking if you haven't already got a good GP, they are out there.
USABlue
Player Valuation: £70m
Glad to do it mate. My first exam is in less than 24hours and it is the dealbreaker for whether or not I make it into next year, so I'm fretting hugely about it. Likewise haven't found a job for the break so that too is something I'm worrying about.
Keep working at things and they'll turn out ok.
Good luck on your exams mate! Just put in the work this upcoming week, make it to next year then relax a bit during the break.
Raymondo077
Player Valuation: £10m
I cannot emphatize enough how much this thread has helped me.
So proud to be blue. Groucho and the esk deserve a special mention for their work along
with everyone who have shared their struggle with this beast, but together we,ll beat it.
So proud to be blue. Groucho and the esk deserve a special mention for their work along
with everyone who have shared their struggle with this beast, but together we,ll beat it.
Kiwi
Say NO to Ginger Managers
I've lived in an area like that all of my short life, and it's something you just have to get used to.
Going out and meeting people that are nice and live in the same area helps to give you that perspective that there's more than just melts and hooligans to the place. Those are the people that matter, not the bellends.
The Esk
Player Valuation: £70m
I cannot emphatize enough how much this thread has helped me.
So proud to be blue. Groucho and the esk deserve a special mention for their work along
with everyone who have shared their struggle with this beast, but together we,ll beat it.
Thanks mate, @Groucho in particular deserves praise for starting the thread and being the main driver of it since.
I'm aware also there's a lot that goes on via private conversations with many of the regular posters here playing a big part.
Great that so many have benefited just from either sharing their problems or indeed reading about others and realising that many have similar problems to their own.
To use a Martinez phrase, this is a "unique" thread and as you say a great credit to everyone. I hope your words encourage others to share their stories and receive similar help.
Good luck to all, you know you have a family of Blues here who will help as much as they can!
bizzaro
LOVE GOT JUST THE WAY IT IS #ALWNV
Anger management is difficult. Fatigue is often a precursor.
I suggest you ask the wife if you can go away for a few days. Get a little space.
Go camping + hiking or something that will get you outdoors and a little perspective.
Getting outdoors in the wild will show you how insignificant small the anger triggers really are.
I've felt as if I've had a bad few weeks since I've come off citalopram. Been feeling very stressed and low about myself because of a combination of things really.
I've had to look after my special needs brother and it's hard work, I've gotten so wound up at having to clean up after him and my scruffy sister that I've felt like a house-wife and I've lost my temper a few times at the pair of them.
Also, a girl I've been into for months pretty much knocked me back so that's always a donwer. Plus a couple of mates of mine are having some bad domestics right now and I've somehow been dragged into it, had both of them having a go at me when I've done F all wrong and have nothing to do with anything their arguing about.
It's always rough coming off anti-depressants when you've been on them for so long.
I've had to look after my special needs brother and it's hard work, I've gotten so wound up at having to clean up after him and my scruffy sister that I've felt like a house-wife and I've lost my temper a few times at the pair of them.
Also, a girl I've been into for months pretty much knocked me back so that's always a donwer. Plus a couple of mates of mine are having some bad domestics right now and I've somehow been dragged into it, had both of them having a go at me when I've done F all wrong and have nothing to do with anything their arguing about.
It's always rough coming off anti-depressants when you've been on them for so long.
I'm just glad it helps.
I'm sure you agree, I don't want credit, I just got sick of seeing the wife (and myself previously) have this illness and despite us both being in the medical world, watch her recieve little help. Her new GP was ace though.
Also it shows just how good GOT is. You all deserve as much if not more praise for this thread than me. So if it's helped even just one person it's been worth it.
Dozbik
Player Valuation: £8m
Do any of you have tips for motivation techniques? Or a good book, online lectures or any useful material concerning this topic? I seem to be losing interest in any long-term commitments I embark on, it's university right now. I have no idea why this is happening, but I recall being very motivated when I started, getting positive feedback and so forth, but somehow I've lost motivation and my performance has visibly deteriorated ever since. My professors have told me this and I don't know how to react, but it saddens me and makes me wonder how will I succeed when I will have to work for decades in a more or less monotonous job if I struggle to finish a two year university course. Well, actually it's getting a diabolic cycle really, because I am even scolded for submitting superficial work (well, my professors claim so at least) even when I believe I did well, or at least had made a decent effort and then I am told that it's still horrendous (actually that was the word and it really felt like being knocked out, I couldn't recover from it and I haven't been getting any positive feedback even when I had thought I did reasonably well) and that further decreases my already shattered confidence. So it's getting out of control really, because I've already failed a few subjects, but I can still put things back on track, but it won't be easy as I will have to "get past" a [Poor language removed] whore, sorry to say that, but a real bitch who has been trying to hinder me in every single way possible for one mistake I made (I did some idiotic piece of homework badly, which really infuriated her) and ever since that happened she's been screwing around with me even though I obviously tried to make things better and tried to reconcile with her and wrote apologetic e-mails and all that stuff, but no, no, no, I've played all my cards for her, in her eyes I seem to remain as the guy who doesn't care about my subject and I'll show him who's boss here. Which is such a joke really, because the subject she teaches us is interpreting from German into Hungarian and but for three people, including myself and two mates who have lived in Germany ever since their childhood, nobody can say a grammatically correct sentence in German. And they are getting good grades! Can you believe this? And I will surely have to postpone my graduation, because this whitch still feels she hasn't punished me enough... if she continues, I'll go in with a machine gun and shoot everyone to death. 
OK, don't take the last sentence seriously. Or should you? Nah, just kidding. It's still bloody outrageous though and sometimes I do daydream about how nice it would be to really beat that slut up.
But anyway, that's not the main point, which is mo-ti-va-tion. I sensed the same issues in my family and I don't want to live as a sore loser my whole life, but unfortunately it is somehow ingrained into us, my parents, especially my dad and he's been so negative all the time and he still is and I feel that it's poisoning me too. I had thought about moving away, but 1. I couldn't fund such a move, 2. I'd probably feel lonesome in the end, so I really don't know which way to go. I was thinking of going abroad to Germany for a scholarship, but I'm a bit afraid (very actually) of going to a country whose language I speak only at an intermediate level at best all by myself, having to organise everything alone, I've never done that before. I've lived in a student hostel during my BA studies, but those were here in Hungary, so I was two hours away from home really. Do you have any pieces of advice?
OK, don't take the last sentence seriously. Or should you? Nah, just kidding. It's still bloody outrageous though and sometimes I do daydream about how nice it would be to really beat that slut up.But anyway, that's not the main point, which is mo-ti-va-tion. I sensed the same issues in my family and I don't want to live as a sore loser my whole life, but unfortunately it is somehow ingrained into us, my parents, especially my dad and he's been so negative all the time and he still is and I feel that it's poisoning me too. I had thought about moving away, but 1. I couldn't fund such a move, 2. I'd probably feel lonesome in the end, so I really don't know which way to go. I was thinking of going abroad to Germany for a scholarship, but I'm a bit afraid (very actually) of going to a country whose language I speak only at an intermediate level at best all by myself, having to organise everything alone, I've never done that before. I've lived in a student hostel during my BA studies, but those were here in Hungary, so I was two hours away from home really. Do you have any pieces of advice?
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witchdoc187
Player Valuation: £60m
Do any of you have tips for motivation techniques? Or a good book, online lectures or any useful material concerning this topic? I seem to be losing interest in any long-term commitments I embark on, it's university right now. I have no idea why this is happening, but I recall being very motivated when I started, getting positive feedback and so forth, but somehow I've lost motivation and my performance has visibly deteriorated ever since. My professors have told me this and I don't know how to react, but it saddens me and makes me wonder how will I succeed when I will have to work for decades in a more or less monotonous job if I struggle to finish a two year university course. Well, actually it's getting a diabolic cycle really, because I am even scolded for submitting superficial work (well, my professors claim so at least) even when I believe I did well, or at least had made a decent effort and then I am told that it's still horrendous (actually that was the word and it really felt like being knocked out, I couldn't recover from it and I haven't been getting any positive feedback even when I had thought I did reasonably well) and that further decreases my already shattered confidence. So it's getting out of control really, because I've already failed a few subjects, but I can still put things back on track, but it won't be easy as I will have to "get past" a [Poor language removed] whore, sorry to say that, but a real bitch who has been trying to hinder me in every single way possible for one mistake I made (I did some idiotic piece of homework badly, which really infuriated her) and ever since that happened she's been screwing around with me even though I obviously tried to make things better and tried to reconcile with her and wrote apologetic e-mails and all that stuff, but no, no, no, I've played all my cards for her, in her eyes I seem to remain as the guy who doesn't care about my subject and I'll show him who's boss here. Which is such a joke really, because the subject she teaches us is interpreting from German into Hungarian and but for three people, including myself and two mates who have lived in Germany ever since their childhood, nobody can say a grammatically correct sentence in German. And they are getting good grades! Can you believe this? And I will surely have to postpone my graduation, because this whitch still feels she hasn't punished me enough... if she continues, I'll go in with a machine gun and shoot everyone to death.
But anyway, that's not the main point, which is mo-ti-va-tion. I sensed the same issues in my family and I don't want to live as a sore loser my whole life, but unfortunately it is somehow ingrained into us, my parents, especially my dad and he's been so negative all the time and he still is and I feel that it's poisoning me too. I had thought about moving away, but 1. I couldn't fund such a move, 2. I'd probably feel lonesome in the end, so I really don't know which way to go. I was thinking of going abroad to Germany for a scholarship, but I'm a bit afraid (very actually) of going to a country whose language I speak only at an intermediate level at best all by myself, having to organise everything alone, I've never done that before. I've lived in a student hostel during my BA studies, but those were here in Hungary, so I was two hours away from home really. Do you have any pieces of advice?
hello mate, is your lack of motivation due to the fact you arent interested in your course? If thats the case then maybe you're doing the wrong thing. My advice (based on what you have said) is to go to germany. Dont put barriers in your way that dont exist i.e fear of the unknown. Just go for it, if it doesnt work out at least you've given it a try. Dont be afraid.
erikdi
Player Valuation: £225k
Been struggling a bit the last few months. My wife left me suddenly in May, and my mother's very sick. Perpective on life is very important, and I found some very good tips here: http://themindunleashed.org/2014/07/30-things-start-4-absolutely-vital.html
GwladysBlue
Player Valuation: £70m
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