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anjelikaferrett

waiting for the resurgence
Hello all. Thought I would share this with you. Was having a few beers with my 25 year old son yesterday. We got onto the subject of social media. He doesn't really do it at all. Only uses Messenger and goes on Reddit (if that counts as social media) He thinks that social media is the root cause of the mental health crisis we are currently seeing - and that is being masked by Brexit. He said it is people showing you the very best bits of their lives and none of the sh*te inbetween. Other people then feel unhappy because they can't match up to what they have seen and that their lives are dull and boring. He said it's like the gambler who will tell you about the big win but never about the losses.

He has just come back from an amazing holiday in Indonesia with two of his mates. He said his mates would spend at least an hour every night deciding what to post on Instagram and it really annoyed him. "My photos are for me Mum. I don't need to share them" I thought it was an interesting conversation and I know that it is what some of you on here have been saying for quite some time.

I thought about it and I believe he is probably right. I have a friend who in real life I love dearly, she's a good laugh and great company. Her social media self is awful. "look at me, here I am, here's my 180 pairs of shoes. What dress shall I wear tonight. Here's my entire calendar for the next year and all the places I'm going to" Nothing like the real person I know.
 

YoboCopter

Player Valuation: £15m
Hello all. Thought I would share this with you. Was having a few beers with my 25 year old son yesterday. We got onto the subject of social media. He doesn't really do it at all. Only uses Messenger and goes on Reddit (if that counts as social media) He thinks that social media is the root cause of the mental health crisis we are currently seeing - and that is being masked by Brexit. He said it is people showing you the very best bits of their lives and none of the sh*te inbetween. Other people then feel unhappy because they can't match up to what they have seen and that their lives are dull and boring. He said it's like the gambler who will tell you about the big win but never about the losses.

He has just come back from an amazing holiday in Indonesia with two of his mates. He said his mates would spend at least an hour every night deciding what to post on Instagram and it really annoyed him. "My photos are for me Mum. I don't need to share them" I thought it was an interesting conversation and I know that it is what some of you on here have been saying for quite some time.

I thought about it and I believe he is probably right. I have a friend who in real life I love dearly, she's a good laugh and great company. Her social media self is awful. "look at me, here I am, here's my 180 pairs of shoes. What dress shall I wear tonight. Here's my entire calendar for the next year and all the places I'm going to" Nothing like the real person I know.
All very true but you cant expect people to post the bad bits can ya? Sitting on a toilet or cleaning the kitchen? Dosent make sense ..

People want to see the best bits and if you dont then just dont use social media as your son does

But totally agree its route of evil unless you always bare in mind what it is.. a place to show off basically...
 

COYBL25

Official GOT Joey Speak Interpreter.
All very true but you cant expect people to post the bad bits can ya? Sitting on a toilet or cleaning the kitchen? Dosent make sense ..

People want to see the best bits and if you dont then just dont use social media as your son does

But totally agree its route of evil unless you always bare in mind what it is.. a place to show off basically...
Turning your life into a "happy " version of the Trueman Show also shows a chronic lack of self confidence and happiness imo.

People who are genuinely happy don`t spend all day editing their lives, to make it seem all shiny and great, as they don`t need to.
 

Minimeister

Player Valuation: £40m
Hello all. Thought I would share this with you. Was having a few beers with my 25 year old son yesterday. We got onto the subject of social media. He doesn't really do it at all. Only uses Messenger and goes on Reddit (if that counts as social media) He thinks that social media is the root cause of the mental health crisis we are currently seeing - and that is being masked by Brexit. He said it is people showing you the very best bits of their lives and none of the sh*te inbetween. Other people then feel unhappy because they can't match up to what they have seen and that their lives are dull and boring. He said it's like the gambler who will tell you about the big win but never about the losses.

He has just come back from an amazing holiday in Indonesia with two of his mates. He said his mates would spend at least an hour every night deciding what to post on Instagram and it really annoyed him. "My photos are for me Mum. I don't need to share them" I thought it was an interesting conversation and I know that it is what some of you on here have been saying for quite some time.

I thought about it and I believe he is probably right. I have a friend who in real life I love dearly, she's a good laugh and great company. Her social media self is awful. "look at me, here I am, here's my 180 pairs of shoes. What dress shall I wear tonight. Here's my entire calendar for the next year and all the places I'm going to" Nothing like the real person I know.
Your lad sounds very sensible! Another thing is the amount of disciplinaries that arise becomes someones facebook 'friend' has grassed them up for posting something controversial. Another thing that's on the rise that shows social media for what it is.
 

anjelikaferrett

waiting for the resurgence
Your lad sounds very sensible! Another thing is the amount of disciplinaries that arise becomes someones facebook 'friend' has grassed them up for posting something controversial. Another thing that's on the rise that shows social media for what it is.
Oh God yes!! I represented 4 people in my old place of work for something they put on social media. Somebody - a "friend" had printed off their conversation and given it to the HR manager. They kept their jobs by the skin of their teeth. After that I was like the Facebook police! I quite often messaged our members telling them to take something off their page. Never ever put where you work on your profile and make sure your privacy settings are nailed down.
 

anjelikaferrett

waiting for the resurgence
Turning your life into a "happy " version of the Trueman Show also shows a chronic lack of self confidence and happiness imo.

People who are genuinely happy don`t spend all day editing their lives, to make it seem all shiny and great, as they don`t need to.
I think this is very true. There are an awful lot of people out there seeking some kind of self affirmation based on how many "likes" they get
 

AmericasToffee

Player Valuation: £10m
All very true but you cant expect people to post the bad bits can ya? Sitting on a toilet or cleaning the kitchen? Dosent make sense ..

People want to see the best bits and if you dont then just dont use social media as your son does

But totally agree its route of evil unless you always bare in mind what it is.. a place to show off basically...
I would venture that social media was intended to be social. Not a fantasy.
 

messymascot

Player Valuation: £8m
Hello all. Thought I would share this with you. Was having a few beers with my 25 year old son yesterday. We got onto the subject of social media. He doesn't really do it at all. Only uses Messenger and goes on Reddit (if that counts as social media) He thinks that social media is the root cause of the mental health crisis we are currently seeing - and that is being masked by Brexit. He said it is people showing you the very best bits of their lives and none of the sh*te inbetween. Other people then feel unhappy because they can't match up to what they have seen and that their lives are dull and boring. He said it's like the gambler who will tell you about the big win but never about the losses.

He has just come back from an amazing holiday in Indonesia with two of his mates. He said his mates would spend at least an hour every night deciding what to post on Instagram and it really annoyed him. "My photos are for me Mum. I don't need to share them" I thought it was an interesting conversation and I know that it is what some of you on here have been saying for quite some time.

I thought about it and I believe he is probably right. I have a friend who in real life I love dearly, she's a good laugh and great company. Her social media self is awful. "look at me, here I am, here's my 180 pairs of shoes. What dress shall I wear tonight. Here's my entire calendar for the next year and all the places I'm going to" Nothing like the real person I know.
Turning your life into a "happy " version of the Trueman Show also shows a chronic lack of self confidence and happiness imo.

People who are genuinely happy don`t spend all day editing their lives, to make it seem all shiny and great, as they don`t need to.
For me Social Media is an absolute double edge sword. On the one hand you have the show offs who like to rub your face in their success you also have the people who are down who try to drag you down with them. However in some of my darkest moments people have been there for me when if it hadn't been for social media they wouldn't even be in my life. Since I've been on this page I have controlled my social media activity a bit and the bad side is obvious but I do believe like anything if it's used properly it can be a really good addition to your life.
 

anjelikaferrett

waiting for the resurgence
For me Social Media is an absolute double edge sword. On the one hand you have the show offs who like to rub your face in their success you also have the people who are down who try to drag you down with them. However in some of my darkest moments people have been there for me when if it hadn't been for social media they wouldn't even be in my life. Since I've been on this page I have controlled my social media activity a bit and the bad side is obvious but I do believe like anything if it's used properly it can be a really good addition to your life.
For me, I enjoy it. I can recognise the attention seekers with passive aggressive statuses (Some people..... followed invariably by You Ok hun? pm me) the show offs and the fantasists and ignore them. I think it should be fun. I quite like looking at people's photos (probably because I'm a nosey mare)and it's a good way of keeping in touch with friends and relatives who live far away. I'm also not friends with anybody I don't know in real life. However I am much more aware of the negative effects that it can have than I ever was.
 

chrismpw

Player Valuation: £60m
Turning your life into a "happy " version of the Trueman Show also shows a chronic lack of self confidence and happiness imo.

People who are genuinely happy don`t spend all day editing their lives, to make it seem all shiny and great, as they don`t need to.
Quite right.

I play guitar and sing a bit. People often comment that most of my songs are miserable ones and protest songs, never love songs. I agreed - but it doesn't mean I'm miserable. It's just that when I'm happy I have better things to do than pick up a guitar and write songs.
The singer songwriter [Poor language removed] Gaughan shared a similar sentiment with his song "a different kind of love song" - his protests and recounts of historical repression are songs of love for the humans so treated.

People would be well advised not to take another's public persona as a balanced reflection or representation of their life.
 

efcforever

Player Valuation: £8m
Recently re-connected with an old friend and met up for a drink over the weekend. I've lost contact with some good friends over the years due to my social anxiety.

I wanted to cancel due to anxiety on the day we were due to meet up but I pushed myself to go and I'm really glad I did. We hadn't spoken in over 10 years but it was just like old times. It's really given me a boost.
 

BigBlueNose

Player Valuation: £70m
Quite right.

I play guitar and sing a bit. People often comment that most of my songs are miserable ones and protest songs, never love songs. I agreed - but it doesn't mean I'm miserable. It's just that when I'm happy I have better things to do than pick up a guitar and write songs.
The singer songwriter [Poor language removed] Gaughan shared a similar sentiment with his song "a different kind of love song" - his protests and recounts of historical repression are songs of love for the humans so treated.

People would be well advised not to take another's public persona as a balanced reflection or representation of their life.
Or forum persona's

Love

Frank
 

goodisonopheliac

Player Valuation: £30m
Meds post. Help requested.

Because I am a moron, and I'm having a lot of trouble with intrusive thoughts, I forgot to put a repeat prescription in for my meds, which means I have to go without until Thursday, because I have two tablets left - one for tomorrow, one for Monday - and I put my request in online today, and the surgery says now you have to wait 4 days for your meds. Is there any way I can get an emergency supply for 2 days? Venlafaxine is horrible and if I go without for even a day, I feel like crap.
Hello all. Thought I would share this with you. Was having a few beers with my 25 year old son yesterday. We got onto the subject of social media. He doesn't really do it at all. Only uses Messenger and goes on Reddit (if that counts as social media) He thinks that social media is the root cause of the mental health crisis we are currently seeing - and that is being masked by Brexit. He said it is people showing you the very best bits of their lives and none of the sh*te inbetween. Other people then feel unhappy because they can't match up to what they have seen and that their lives are dull and boring. He said it's like the gambler who will tell you about the big win but never about the losses.

He has just come back from an amazing holiday in Indonesia with two of his mates. He said his mates would spend at least an hour every night deciding what to post on Instagram and it really annoyed him. "My photos are for me Mum. I don't need to share them" I thought it was an interesting conversation and I know that it is what some of you on here have been saying for quite some time.

I thought about it and I believe he is probably right. I have a friend who in real life I love dearly, she's a good laugh and great company. Her social media self is awful. "look at me, here I am, here's my 180 pairs of shoes. What dress shall I wear tonight. Here's my entire calendar for the next year and all the places I'm going to" Nothing like the real person I know.
I don't think it's the cause, BUT it exacerbates it. I don't buy into all the Instagram crap - i mainly only go on there to look at pics of our players and people's pets - but I know a lot of younger women do. I had a similar complex about not having a sex life when I had friends who'd bang on about theirs, or their polyamorous relationships. In my case, it's Twitter. Twitter is poisonous. I post the odd holiday photo on Instagram, but that's it. I also refuse to friend any of my colleagues on Facebook. I have nothing in common with them.
 

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