efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
Could be a wise move to let things cool. Maybe send her a text just to let her know she's welcome to come round. Leave the ball in her court.
Must be very difficult mate.
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Could be a wise move to let things cool. Maybe send her a text just to let her know she's welcome to come round. Leave the ball in her court.
Must be very difficult mate.
Billy Dean
Player Valuation: £70m
Maybe suggest to her trying to get a sponsor? Also, I think there are AA meetings for those affected by a loved one’s alcoholism. Could someone from your family try one out? Might be a good way to get advice from people who have been in similar situations to you?
Edit: just googled. It’s called Al-Anon
https://www.alcoholrehabguide.org/support/al-anon/
jonnyboy316
Player Valuation: £35m
Thanks
gorgeousgeorgeEFC
Player Valuation: £25m
I got drunk at the casino because my anxiety was severe and I wanted to escape it for Afew hours. To cut a long story short I have ended up gambling away the £5k that my wife has scrupulously saved for a new kitchen. By 11pm I had only lost a few hundred quid but I kept chasing it and things got out of hand.
I'm never gambling or drinking again.
My wife is really disgruntled but she's also been understanding. What's killing me is thinking about all the hard work she had to do to save that money. I just feel so low.
I'm never gambling or drinking again.
My wife is really disgruntled but she's also been understanding. What's killing me is thinking about all the hard work she had to do to save that money. I just feel so low.
Mistakes happen mate. Channel that negative energy into a new positive: working hard to save up the £5k again to treat your wife to her new kitchen. Let last night motivate you.
gorgeousgeorgeEFC
Player Valuation: £25m
Cheers fella. That's a help.
billyblue80
Player Valuation: £70m
Feeling empty again today. Even when good things happen I feel empty, or low. Then I feel frustrated that I feel empty and low. Vicious cycle. Everton aren't helping either you gang of beauts!
mccole
Player Valuation: £35m
Don't know if this helps but when it comes to Everton, I always have a silly little rule.
The rule is I will chat about it (win, lose or draw) for 5/10 mins depending on results but I make a cut off point usually I would put the pub jukebox on if I am at the game and I don't know why but it was Call Me by Blondie.
It happened during Moyes' run after we got beat 4-0 by Bolton at Goodison in 2005, I was a tough season and we all just had enough so I was sick of just getting on the ale then moaning about Everton so I just broke the cycle.
Saw Blondie, banged it on then spent a few minutes not giving a toss. It helped loads and since then I've played Call Me a shedloads but I don't get hung up on the Blues.
If you find yourself down, break the cycle, do something different like go for a walk, listen to the first album you ever bought or cook your favourite meal.
Don't let life dictate you, it's your life, make the most of it.
Up The Blues!
YoboCopter
Player Valuation: £50m
Blue monday
True or aload of bollocks?
True or aload of bollocks?
efcforever
Player Valuation: £10m
I think there's some truth to it. All that build up and excitement and then it's over so fast.
I feel empty most days mate to be honest. I just lay in Bed yesterday until 1pm. I just couldn't be bothered. . I then just lay on the sofa all day. I feel as though my ex wife has succeeded in driving a wedge between me and my daughter.
I love taking my daughter to swimming club every Friday for instance but my ex has now stopped that and said I can only do it every other week which I accepted at first thinking my ex wanted to take her instead but nope my ex's dad(my daughter's grandad) is taking her so she is I think being spiteful so it's left me extremely down as I don't want the fight anymore.
Tipp blue
If I agreed with you, we’d both be wrong.
I'd just figured that Blue Monday was just any Monday of the season after a weekend that Everton lost, where you just wake up Monday morning and just go "right that's this season in the bin" and start thinking about next season and building your hopes up again only to be shattered again on a Monday usually in January or February, it's a never ending merry go round.
Mate, that's not a good situation but you need to try and break the cycle of stopping in bed. I know how you feel, I've been through it but one thing I learned was staying in bed is the easy option but all you do is fester and ruminate and that increases anxiety and a feeling of lack of self worth. Just by getting up, going for a long walk and treating yourself - even to a nice coffee and a bacon roll or the like - will kick start the day. You need to show your ex that this present situation will not break you as she is clearly yanking your chains at the moment. Don't know the situation of your break up but is there any chance of having a word with her Father to explain how you feel? He is a Dad after all and can surely empathise as he can put himself in your shoes. Just stay positive - and good luck!
Update: Still losing weight. Financial situation is a bit better than it was post-Christmas, been given a teaching job for 3 modules this year.
Cracking down on our hours now at work, lots of people twiddling thumbs, not 100% what we’ve got going forwards. My company is decent though, very loyal, they’ll move people around to keep them going. Decided maybe it was best to update my CV though and plop it online just in case.
Problem is, this is the only “proper” job I’ve ever had and the thought of doing it somewhere else is driving my anxiety right up. What if you’re not up to it? What if they don’t need you after 6 months? What if the way you’ve been working isn’t translatable to other companies?
Has anyone got any tips for calming down about approaching a possible job change?
Problem is, this is the only “proper” job I’ve ever had and the thought of doing it somewhere else is driving my anxiety right up. What if you’re not up to it? What if they don’t need you after 6 months? What if the way you’ve been working isn’t translatable to other companies?
Has anyone got any tips for calming down about approaching a possible job change?
