Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

dannyr2811 said:
Going to my cbt session later, I'm expecting a load of middle aged women to be about. Tempted to swerve it off but had some people tell me i should just go and do it
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You'll see probably very few people in and out.

Those you do will be all ages and sexes
 
I must say, as a newbie, this as been brilliant. Read through parts of it. Really useful and reassuring to know there are people out there willing to listen
 
May as well get it down here. Been having some health problems that are proving very difficult to get to the root of. Thankfully I'm not too bad mentally although I do have some down days. The anxiety can be the real killer but I suppose an unresolved health issue does that to you.

Makes it difficult to get out and about so my life has been mindnumbingly mundane for the past few months. Had to swerve Uni while I try and get healthy. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to keep sane basically? Like I said, I'm OK, just have fears I'll slowly drive myself up the wall. Everton is an absolute solace in that regard and I really wish we played every 2 days lol Even when we're playing crap it's an escape
 
moyeslovechild said:
May as well get it down here. Been having some health problems that are proving very difficult to get to the root of. Thankfully I'm not too bad mentally although I do have some down days. The anxiety can be the real killer but I suppose an unresolved health issue does that to you.

Makes it difficult to get out and about so my life has been mindnumbingly mundane for the past few months. Had to swerve Uni while I try and get healthy. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to keep sane basically? Like I said, I'm OK, just have fears I'll slowly drive myself up the wall. Everton is an absolute solace in that regard and I really wish we played every 2 days lol Even when we're playing crap it's an escape
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Hi mate, I find that exercise and diet does help a little. Also planning stuff with friends ie nights out, meals, home & away matches, gigs. Basically anything that keeps your mind occupied. I understand everybody is different but I've had it for half of my life and what I've mentioned helps me loads also getting enough sleep is also good and finally, talking. Talking is ultimately the best medicine. Probably on here or people you are maybe not emotionally tied to would be best unless you know someone who is a great listener and won't brush it off. Hope this helps!
 
moyeslovechild said:
May as well get it down here. Been having some health problems that are proving very difficult to get to the root of. Thankfully I'm not too bad mentally although I do have some down days. The anxiety can be the real killer but I suppose an unresolved health issue does that to you.

Makes it difficult to get out and about so my life has been mindnumbingly mundane for the past few months. Had to swerve Uni while I try and get healthy. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to keep sane basically? Like I said, I'm OK, just have fears I'll slowly drive myself up the wall. Everton is an absolute solace in that regard and I really wish we played every 2 days lol Even when we're playing crap it's an escape
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Any way you can keep up with some Uni work/study even if not for credit? If you are studying it, it must be (hopefully) something that interests you. Maybe talk to some Profs to get some suggestions. Might also make getting back in the swing of university/study easier once you can get back to it.
 
dannyr2811 said:
Going to my cbt session later, I'm expecting a load of middle aged women to be about. Tempted to swerve it off but had some people tell me i should just go and do it
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Hi Mate.

You will just see a therapist. I went to it and thought " What can they do for me" It helped me so much. They helped me understand why I am like I am. Going there has made things easier for me. Do it mate and I hope it helps you..Good luck.
 
moyeslovechild said:
May as well get it down here. Been having some health problems that are proving very difficult to get to the root of. Thankfully I'm not too bad mentally although I do have some down days. The anxiety can be the real killer but I suppose an unresolved health issue does that to you.

Makes it difficult to get out and about so my life has been mindnumbingly mundane for the past few months. Had to swerve Uni while I try and get healthy. Just wondering if anyone had any advice on how to keep sane basically? Like I said, I'm OK, just have fears I'll slowly drive myself up the wall. Everton is an absolute solace in that regard and I really wish we played every 2 days lol Even when we're playing crap it's an escape
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Talk talk and talk. Maybe think about chatting to your doctor about it. We are always here, just keep talking about it mate.
 
The physical part of the health problem is what makes it difficult to get about, though I'm sure even forcing myself to do fun stuff would make me happier so I do need to make more of an effort. I'm hoping that the health problem is closer to a resolution although that's something I've thought numerous times so fingers crossed. Problem is the anxiety over it (i.e, I keep thinking it's gonna kill me) has the tendency to zap my enthusiasm to do anything as I feel like I'm just trying to get by each day. Haven't even told my mates here in Liverpool that I've took the year off Uni yet which is shocking.

There is so much Uni stuff I could be doing you know. I think I just need to change my outlook really. I do think that once I'm in good physical health it will be a lot easier but I'm not sure that's much of an excuse for wallowing in self-pity like I'm probably doing at the mo.
 
Bryan said:
You know to me, depression is a lot of things, its being socially awkward, its being nervous its being constantly tired. Its feeling like you are alone, its feeling like you don't belong its the difficulties you face that you think everyone else finds simple.

Its finding the difficulties in things, its all of the above. The one thing depression isn't... To me? Is a winner. Why? Cos I am. I wont ever let depression win, In [Poor language removed] hardened by the challenge, I know what it feels like I k know how it feels. Genuinely don't ever feel like this god awful illness is winning cos its not, it cant cos we are all special, depression. Isn't anything to be embarrassed about it ashamed! Get it out here! We can all contribute to this fight, you all fight a battle.

Let's [Poor language removed] fight together.I'm so proud of every single person that's posted here.
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Well said

It is hard to fight it, but you can. Talk to people.
 
I have pretty bad OCD. It is compulsions. I have to touch things so many times. This almost killed me. But now I am coping with it all. CBT really helped me so much.

OCD AND ME

I have OCD, it's ok I'm fine
I have OCD, it's ok I'm fine
I have OCD, it's ok I'm fine
I had to write that 3 times before I could write the next line

My head talks to me, it rants away
do it now, do as I say
touch that door frame 6 times more
or someone dies, and thats for sure

It used to have me in a spin
drove me crazy, I could not win
it never gave me any rest
always there, just like a pest

touch your face, now rub your nose
twirl those fingers, bend those toes
twist that neck, then flick that hand
do it all on my command

check that door, again again again
do it till you go insane
if you venture off outside
I'm there with you, you can not hide

touch that table, touch that door
when you finish, touch that floor
count those letters on your screen
count them all until you scream

pick that glass up, over there
hold it up, till people stare
are you glad that you came
now i've made you feel such shame

if You try to talk, I'll block your speach
sit on your hands, I'll make you reach
I will rule how you behave
it only ends when in the grave

for 40 years I lived this way
doing all that it would say
in the end my mind it blew
therapy, they put me through

they taught me all about my mind
why it treats me so unkind
showed me how to work and cope
gave me answers, gave me hope

the voice still talks, still tries to roll
but now it's me who's in control
I now take it day by day
it does not matter what it say

I know it's with me till i'm gone
but thats ok, because I won
if life grabs you with a squeeze
talk to someone, do it please
 
Haven't been on this thread for a while, it's comforting knowing it's here when you feel the need to let things out. My partner has been ill for quite some time and been pretty much bed bound for the last year, she's 37 and being in this position from a youngish age has been really tough for her to take. Problem being at the moment she's not coping at all with things. I have had her doctor involved as well as social workers and adult health services. I'm getting concerned as she seems to be giving up and it's becoming increasingly hard at home as I'm the main carer for her and our 3 year old daughter aswell as trying to work. She has spells in rest bite care which helps me out a bit. I'm staring to struggle now and it's making daily life very hard indeed. She has been literally led in bed crying and wailing for long spells now and the worry now is what to do for the best as I'm scared of things effecting our little girl. At the end of my tether nearly with trying to cope now.
 
RalphDring said:
Haven't been on this thread for a while, it's comforting knowing it's here when you feel the need to let things out. My partner has been ill for quite some time and been pretty much bed bound for the last year, she's 37 and being in this position from a youngish age has been really tough for her to take. Problem being at the moment she's not coping at all with things. I have had her doctor involved as well as social workers and adult health services. I'm getting concerned as she seems to be giving up and it's becoming increasingly hard at home as I'm the main carer for her and our 3 year old daughter aswell as trying to work. She has spells in rest bite care which helps me out a bit. I'm staring to struggle now and it's making daily life very hard indeed. She has been literally led in bed crying and wailing for long spells now and the worry now is what to do for the best as I'm scared of things effecting our little girl. At the end of my tether nearly with trying to cope now.
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That sounds awful mate - I'm sorry for your situation. I have relatives in the same boat. The carer in my story is very strong and resolves the problem by giving total unconditional love to the invalid. Any child who sees that would be getting the best lesson in life surely. But if your little girl is very small, she no doubt needs all the love that you can give and an explanation of what's happening to Mummy. Very tough though

My mother is very elderly now but lost her own mum at 8 years old to tuberculosis. Her father didn't do the right thing and just left her to cope at that tender age. He didn't cuddle her or care for her in any way at all. She's over 80 now but has never shaken off the pain of loss....still suffers from the hurt that dates back to 1939. So look after your partner, love your little girl as if every day is your last. But look after yourself as well. And good luck for the future.
 

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