Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[CahillsCornerFlag]

How you getting on mate, any better ?

Appreciate your concern mate, and I am doing better as of yesterday afternoon. Had a very deep think about why I'd felt that way, and realised that being truly honest with yourself can be incredibly hard sometimes! But I said a few things to some important people in my life that I'd been bottling up for a long time, and feel a bit lighter now, and nowhere near as devoid of hope. Main thing for me now is to not bottle things up for months on end or leave things unsaid.

 

[COYBL25]

Appreciate your concern mate, and I am doing better as of yesterday afternoon. Had a very deep think about why I'd felt that way, and realised that being truly honest with yourself can be incredibly hard sometimes! But I said a few things to some important people in my life that I'd been bottling up for a long time, and feel a bit lighter now, and nowhere near as devoid of hope. Main thing for me now is to not bottle things up for months on end or leave things unsaid.

Well in mate.

I think all of us have been there at some time.

Sometimes it really is good to talk

 

[ScouseClown]

Been awhile since I posted but just giving an update.

Still signed off work, been since June now, but going to speak to my manager tomorrow about a phased return. In the meantime though I've been applying for other jobs as I do feel I won't be happy in mine once I return, but I'd rather not leave without having something else.

Also finally agreed that I need counselling, had my phone assessment with Talk Liverpool and she said I have bad social anxiety and I'm on a waiting list now for some high intense therapy.

Been keeping myself active though and booked my theory test in for the end of this month. Failed it 4 or so times when I was like 18, but I'm a lot older now and actually interested in it and want to be able to drive so it's something at least.

Just got to say thanks again to everyone on here too, I wouldn't have actually made any progress if it wasn't for reading things on here!

 

[COYBL25]

Been awhile since I posted but just giving an update.

Still signed off work, been since June now, but going to speak to my manager tomorrow about a phased return. In the meantime though I've been applying for other jobs as I do feel I won't be happy in mine once I return, but I'd rather not leave without having something else.

Also finally agreed that I need counselling, had my phone assessment with Talk Liverpool and she said I have bad social anxiety and I'm on a waiting list now for some high intense therapy.

Been keeping myself active though and booked my theory test in for the end of this month. Failed it 4 or so times when I was like 18, but I'm a lot older now and actually interested in it and want to be able to drive so it's something at least.

Just got to say thanks again to everyone on here too, I wouldn't have actually made any progress if it wasn't for reading things on here!

A lot of positivity there mate.

One step at a time

 

[GrandOldTeam]

Thought perhaps could interest a few;

 

[efcforever]

First bad day I've had for a few weeks today. I suppose it's going to happen from time to time. It's just tough when I'm at work and the anxiety takes hold.

 

[COYBL25]

First bad day I've had for a few weeks today. I suppose it's going to happen from time to time. It's just tough when I'm at work and the anxiety takes hold.

Can you get away for a short break ?

 

[Safc-mark-91]

I've been diagnosed with clinical depression after I took an overdose to end it... Everyday is a struggle, currently off work to battle my old demons (Alcohol & Drugs) and due back on Monday after 4 months off sick.

I hide it quite well, from friends and family but recently people have noticed.

On anti-depressants and due to liver problems, (I'm only 26) I have to be very careful with what I drink. As for Drugs, I've deleted all my 'numbers' to stop temptation.

Pleased there's a thread about this as it's a taboo subject with men. I hid it for 7 years before my armour broke, incapable of holding it together anymore. I'd like to think despite my young age I'm a good listener and if anyone needs any help I'm happy to do anything I can.

I know depression is part of my life now, so I've just got to manage it best I can to try and have a 'normal life. I've wasted my 20's suffering, when all my mates were on lads holidays etc.

Keep fighting lads/lasses! When you're feeling low stick Only Fools and Horses on or go for a walk - Don't turn to drink, like I did, it only makes it worse.

Stay strong and I hope everyone all the best.

 

[COYBL25]

I've been diagnosed with clinical depression after I took an overdose to end it... Everyday is a struggle, currently off work to battle my old demons (Alcohol & Drugs) and due back on Monday after 4 months off sick.

I hide it quite well, from friends and family but recently people have noticed.

On anti-depressants and due to liver problems, (I'm only 26) I have to be very careful with what I drink. As for Drugs, I've deleted all my 'numbers' to stop temptation.

Pleased there's a thread about this as it's a taboo subject with men. I hid it for 7 years before my armour broke, incapable of holding it together anymore. I'd like to think despite my young age I'm a good listener and if anyone needs any help I'm happy to do anything I can.

I know depression is part of my life now, so I've just got to manage it best I can to try and have a 'normal life. I've wasted my 20's suffering, when all my mates were on lads holidays etc.

Keep fighting lads/lasses.

Great post mate, I'm sure you've got a lot to offer people who come on here

 

[Safc-mark-91]

Great post mate, I'm sure you've got a lot to offer people who come on here

Thank you pal

Typed it out then wasn't sure if I should post it as why should a group of strangers care about a Mackem's problems ha! But, having read a lot on this stuff there's a real community dedicated to helping each other and I need help and if I can support someone else it's win-win.

Depression is by far the worst thing I've ever faced in my life, it makes you constantly think "Why go on - there's no point" and breaks you down without any hint of mercy. Horrible, horrible thing that no-one should go through.

Some people (like me) aren't good at talking about it through counselling etc so this thread is ideal to help them types.

Thanks again.

 

[roydo]

Thank you pal

Typed it out then wasn't sure if I should post it as why should a group of strangers care about a Mackem's problems ha! But, having read a lot on this stuff there's a real community dedicated to helping each other and I need help and if I can support someone else it's win-win.

Depression is by far the worst thing I've ever faced in my life, it makes you constantly think "Why go on - there's no point" and breaks you down without any hint of mercy. Horrible, horrible thing that no-one should go through.

Some people (like me) aren't good at talking about it through counselling etc so this thread is ideal to help them types.

Thanks again.

We thought long and hard before setting this thread up, "inspired" if thats the right word, following the death of Gary Speed.

But it is, in my humble opinion, one of the best things we did; not cos it was a good idea/back slapping, but we know it has been respected for what it is, and been a real source of support, hope, and in a few cases, actually been part of the reason a few have rowed back from the situation you faced.

Its actually come to the attention of some serious players in the mental health world as well, which is good to know.

Thanks for posting btw.

 

[Safc-mark-91]

We thought long and hard before setting this thread up, "inspired" if thats the right word, following the death of Gary Speed.

But it is, in my humble opinion, one of the best things we did; not cos it was a good idea/back slapping, but we know it has been respected for what it is, and been a real source of support, hope, and in a few cases, actually been part of the reason a few have rowed back from the situation you faced.

Its actually come to the attention of some serious players in the mental health world as well, which is good to know.

Thanks for posting btw.

Without knowing it, you (and many others) have probably really helped many people mate. It's a really good thing you've done. If you don't talk about it, you end up bottling it up and that can take you down to a really horrible journey.

For me personally, I wanted desperately to avoid the stigma of being 'weak'. There's this rule that blokes have that means they perceive mental illness as weak and that's fundamentally not the case. It takes guts to admit it, then you can deal with it properly. I was terrified of my friends finding out, I had this vision of them all taking the mick out of me for not coming for a pint because I was depressed, it's silly when I think of it now.

We all get down from time to time (Bloody hell supporting Sunderland doesn't help! lol) and asking for help doesn't mean you're weak/not normal it means the opposite (in my opinion).

You've made a great point about Gary Speed, no-one knew how I'll he was, not even his family - then it was too late.

I can say honestly I've been to hell, like many others on here, but you can't give up - have to keep going.

Well done for setting this up and I mean that

 

[roydo]

Without knowing it, you (and many others) have probably really helped many people mate.

I cant take any credit mate, as I have neither the personal nor professional experience to post anything of any real help, as in, knowing much about it. I saw a new, other club poster had posted, and my interest was pricked. I guess that is an indicator of what you allude to.

But like many threads on here, this one has developed an incredible community of support, understanding, and practical help, which reflects so well on the posters, it makes us all a little bit proud.

 

[efcforever]

Can you get away for a short break ?

Not really. My team leader is aware of the situation but she isn't in. Don't really want to involve anyone else.

Just posting and chatting on here helps.

 

[Safc-mark-91]

I cant take any credit mate, as I have neither the personal nor professional experience to post anything of any real help, as in, knowing much about it. I saw a new, other club poster had posted, and my interest was pricked. I guess that is an indicator of what you allude to.

But like many threads on here, this one has developed an incredible community of support, understanding, and practical help, which reflects so well on the posters, it makes us all a little bit proud.

I think you're being modest mate. Just by allowing people to have a platform to vent their anger, problems etc potentially stops someone from going on an all day binge to find solace in the form of Alcohol or something else. Even with no expertise in this field, sometimes just replying to someone on a thread like this gives people comfort.

I know what you mean though. It's a very well ran site in general.