Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

[witchdoc187]

I hope the advice you and Sassy Colombian have given to witchdoc 187 are taken on board by him and he fights the boy’s mother so he can retain contact with him for the well being of both of you, your love of your son stands out on these posts, best of luck.

Thanks man. He's my world. Everyone I know knows that. No idea how we got to this but I will fight it all the way. We need each other.

 

[witchdoc187]

Just found out one of my best mate's best mate killed himself last night. He was starting to go through a divorce but they started to reconcile. Leaves a 12 and 14 year old boy behind.

Just [Poor language removed] awful...

I'm sorry to hear this my friend. All I can do is send love to you and all those affected x

 

[Spadge Vernacular]

She hasn't previously. But her new boyfriend does all the time. In fact it's all he does. So no idea if she's getting involved

If you could get access to her hair brush you'd be able to find out. If he is inclined that way there might be a case for him to be an unsuitable influence or unfit to play the role of a responsible adult. A friend faced a similar dilemma that resulted in his ex wife having to submit weekly tests and get clean with restrictions placed upon her partner. They both hated it but it was the right thing for the kids safety.

 

[David09]

So my ex wife has been in touch with a women's charity. No doubt alleging abuse. Fortunate because she's in Spain they couldn't help her. Can't believe it's come to this kind of allegation. None of you know me and she doesn't have the opportunity to defend herself but I can assure you this is not true. I think she is making an attempt to get full custody of my son/ my world and take him to another country because of vaccines etc. Anyway despite reacting negatively to every email I send she's now been really nice about asking for a divorce so she's obviously found out something. I'll get legal advice I just wanted to put it here. My son and I are so tight, almost to the point I think she's jealous. She's also massive anti Vax which makes me think she'll do anything to "save' him. I don't think she can do anything without the divorce, hence being nice. Can't believe it's come to this. Me and my boy are each others world.

Stop stressing mate. I had concrete evidence my EX wife abused me. It was mainly financial but she did hit me the once. I had the evidence to prove it but no one in authority including the police will show any interest. They will dismiss it.
Just keep your nose clean and only contact her through email and text so its all written down. If she starts playing games go to a solicitor straight away but that will be costly so try and stay civil towards her.
If it works for you tell her you want 50/50 custody now whilst your kid is still young enough to get into a routine.
My daughter is 16 now and we are not close anymore. But I let her mum dicate everything and I regret not getting 50/50 custody.

 

[David09]

It's not violence I think she's trying to say I mentally abused her. This triggers me because I know it was the other way around. Kills me to think she is capable of breaking my son's heart in this way for her own selfishness. It's insane in itself

She is playing games with you to cover her tracks. Stay calm and don't bite. Otherwise you end up like I was banged up by the police for the night for something like breach of the peace.
Honestly she is trying to wind you up. Dont make my mistakes because she can then use that against you

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Good to hear mate. What exercise are you doing, biking?

Mostly weights mate. Used to do bouldering before the first lockdown so done a few sessions of that too.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

I dunno, for me it's my least fave drug. I don't really like the intensity of it and how annoying you become. I get quite self-conscious about that

It is definitely the most vacuous drug there is (besides booze) but it’s very potent and easily becomes habit forming. Also very ubiquitous these days so will only become more of a problem.

 

[witchdoc187]

Stop stressing mate. I had concrete evidence my EX wife abused me. It was mainly financial but she did hit me the once. I had the evidence to prove it but no one in authority including the police will show any interest. They will dismiss it.
Just keep your nose clean and only contact her through email and text so its all written down. If she starts playing games go to a solicitor straight away but that will be costly so try and stay civil towards her.
If it works for you tell her you want 50/50 custody now whilst your kid is still young enough to get into a routine.
My daughter is 16 now and we are not close anymore. But I let her mum dicate everything and I regret not getting 50/50 custody.

Thanks for the advice my friend. I won't agree to anything that doesn't include 50/50 custody ever. I'm sorry about your daughter amigo x

 

[witchdoc187]

She is playing games with you to cover her tracks. Stay calm and don't bite. Otherwise you end up like I was banged up by the police for the night for something like breach of the peace.
Honestly she is trying to wind you up. Dont make my mistakes because she can then use that against you

Yeah I've managed to not react and only send nice texts in the face of abuse. She feeds off my reactions. So crazy even writing this stuff about my "wife"

 

[witchdoc187]

If you could get access to her hair brush you'd be able to find out. If he is inclined that way there might be a case for him to be an unsuitable influence or unfit to play the role of a responsible adult. A friend faced a similar dilemma that resulted in his ex wife having to submit weekly tests and get clean with restrictions placed upon her partner. They both hated it but it was the right thing for the kids safety.

Thanks mate. Hope it doesn't come to this

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

my weak point has always been cocaine. I thought moving to the middle of nowhere in a rural Spanish village might help the temptation go away but its actually worse. So many people are on it its unreal.

Have you done any research into the effects of magic mushrooms on addiction? Some very interesting info out there.

Mushrooms are my favourite drug and one of the few I’d still be open to using. Can definitely see how they could have benefits for certain types of mental illness. Much more research needed though and would have to be in a very controlled environment.

 

[witchdoc187]

Mushrooms are my favourite drug and one of the few I’d still be open to using. Can definitely see how they could have benefits for certain types of mental illness. Much more research needed though and would have to be in a very controlled environment.

Yeah I can buy truffles here legally. Help me no end if I go into them with the right intention. Hope you still good mate. Keep going

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Yeah I can buy truffles here legally. Help me no end if I go into them with the right intention. Hope you still good mate. Keep going

Where you live?

 

[witchdoc187]

Where you live?

Spain

 

[larbert toffee]

Andy, I’m sorry you been having such an awful time. I hope you don’t ever allow Everton to drive you to the edge because no Club is worthy of your life! Best wishes finding some positives in your life soon. X

@andy4efc , can't add to the above post mate, try and find yourself a contrasting interest to take your mind off the club,
Good luck mate, you can bounce back.