To be honest I couldn't even face dating yet (apart of me is in denial over it all and hoping it works out but it won't) I wouldn't rush into any thing to be fair, emotions are too high (well for me anyway)
I've started back work this week which is getting me out the house but struggling to concentrate for long and It's near where we lived and I've seen her twice which has left me teary eyed.
Yeh a gym will do you good for sure, I'm yet to join as my knees playing up too much.
Today's been really hard had a proper meltdown for a few hours then I've started texting her which made it worse.
What dog have you got they are brilliant for releasing stress through walks. Im going for walks at the moment but I find them alittle boring without my dog. She's kept 'our' dog which is hard to take as it meant alot to me.
One of my main problems at the moment I'd holding it together, living mwith my parents I'm basically living in my bedroom as I don't want to see me upset, then even at work I'm having to go sit in my van for a while to straighten my head out. I feel for you having to work from home, I'd recommend having a walk on your breaks
Hey mate, honestly I'd been massively in denial for weeks, maybe even longer regarding our situation. Even after being told by her countless times she didn't love me anymore I just couldn't accept it and kept pushing on as if it wasn't happening with my head in the sand. Like making small talk or asking if she wanted to go do this and that. It didn't help that it was our anniversary the other day and I'd already spent a little fortune and had booked us a restaurant and that for the evening. I just kept hoping she'd change her mind but it didn't happen.
I think seeing her pack up a few suitcases of her stuff the other day helped snap me out of it.
I know you want to put on a brave face for your parents, but telling mine about my situation has helped me so much. Just having someone to vent to in person, and the advice I've gotten from them has helped me so much. Plus they let me know that anyone who loves me/cares for me wouldn't treat me like she has been doing so that helped me realize I deserve better than what she's giving me.
I have a 'borador', she's a cross between a Labrador and a Border Collie. She's absolutely mental but has really helped me feel not so lonely. I take her to parks all across the city with a frisbee for her to chase, you're welcome to join mate and have a play with her and chat shi about the blues.
Sorry to hear mate - give it time things will pick up... is the relationship done for good or is there a way to patch things up?
Hey FB, it's completely done for now mate. I had been trying to patch it up for weeks but she has made it clear every day she is completely out of the relationship. I've begun the process of actually accepting it now and moving on from her.
Bloody hell mate your braver than me organising a date. Good on you though for trying to move forward. Even after 3 years I don't fancy dating.
I wish I had kept my house and mortgage though. I hate the fact I had a house / mortgage for 12 years and now I have to start again with nothing.
Cheers David, I feel lucky it's fell on my lap though. I had a crush on her since I was like 14 and I'm nearly 30 now! If it was anyone else I wouldn't in such a rush to meet up with her but she's been nice texting with the last few days so it's really helped me get through this.
Sorry for what you had to go through mate, I hope you're doing better now though and getting with with starting fresh.
