Doing the right thing is often harder than the alternative, so you’ve done the tough bit. I saw your post about your son having the same issues as you had growing up - The very fact you’re thinking along those lines virtually ensures that won’t happen. Best of luck with everything.
Nice post Brett
Good luck mate Try and stay strong for your son.
Thank you. That's what I'm hoping.
That's the plan. Thank you
It doesn't feel as tough as i feel it should. Went for a swim at sunset today which definitely helped.
" having to accept you may need plenty of first steps" this Moyes 100%. First step is finding the motivation. I've told my students numerous occasions, one of the first signs of people deteriorating mentally is poor hygiene.That person is usually well presented, teeth clean hair brushed. However, you see them now, they look a mess, etc. They've lost motivation lost interest in the things that they used to make them happy. Psychiatry has a fancy word for it. Anhedonia. All of the above are sure signs not of laziness as some think. But that mentally they are deteriorating. I tell my students it should ring alarm bells. So of course, yes the excercise is very beneficial but only when people are ready. Incidentally flick it around and you visit someone and the hair is brushed, they've been showered etc I suspect Moyes is talking about supporting people as fist steps to do the basics. I recall a client agreeing to a three lined care plan. I paraphrase:
I stayed and stayed in my marriage even though I knew it was finished.
He stayed with me tonight. Was crying for his mum for ages. Was pretty sad but I still feel good about it in the long run. Went to the shop and bought a load of water balloons and of pistols and let him shoot me in the face all day..I did find him sat in the pantry crying which was pretty heart wrenching.
It's a huge change for him. He probably feels unsettled and confused about it all. He will take time to get used to the new arrangement and hopefully feel more settled as time passes. Nice idea with the water pistols! You sound like a lovely caring Dad.
taking one for the team. Great dad cr4p husband
A marriage breaking down doesn’t have to mean anyone has failed, mate. And even if what you say IS true, then you’ve chosen the right one to be great at.
Be there for him and with time and your love the little lad will settle down. We can only try our best and sometimes marriage doesn’t work out, doesn’t necessarily mean you were a cr4p husband
