Discussion & help on depression & mental health related issues

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I've decided to do an experiment, I'm giving up my smart phone and internet for a week, I'm spending too much time on it and I think its affecting my mood, I did it a few weeks ago and started feeling better so went back at it and my mood had gotten worse since, so from this evening my wife will be hiding my phone because I have no will power, she'll check it for WhatsApp messages incase of anything important.. I'll be doing my best to stay offline in work too.. this may be the cause of a lot of my current feelings. Good bye for now.

Good idea , I have been something similar with the TV and my pc , just dont bother with it for more than about 2 hours a day.
Have been giving myself a list of things to do every day and getting on with doing them , feel a lot better in myself for it.
Might take a hint of you and put it into practice with my phone next, it has a dont disturb setting I have on from 22.30 bit might lower it down or hide it like you.

 

[ForeverBlue92]

I've decided to do an experiment, I'm giving up my smart phone and internet for a week, I'm spending too much time on it and I think its affecting my mood, I did it a few weeks ago and started feeling better so went back at it and my mood had gotten worse since, so from this evening my wife will be hiding my phone because I have no will power, she'll check it for WhatsApp messages incase of anything important.. I'll be doing my best to stay offline in work too.. this may be the cause of a lot of my current feelings. Good bye for now.

No Pornhub for a week?!

Left hand wouldn't know what to do with itself

 

[Sassy Colombian]

I've decided to do an experiment, I'm giving up my smart phone and internet for a week, I'm spending too much time on it and I think its affecting my mood, I did it a few weeks ago and started feeling better so went back at it and my mood had gotten worse since, so from this evening my wife will be hiding my phone because I have no will power, she'll check it for WhatsApp messages incase of anything important.. I'll be doing my best to stay offline in work too.. this may be the cause of a lot of my current feelings. Good bye for now.

I hope your experiment is going well, Tipp Blue. Sometimes it is important to give oneself such a break so one can recharge and achieve some mental well-being.

 

[GwladysBlue]

Hope everyone is doing good and gearing up for a nice little extended weekend with the bank holiday.

 

[Paulyefc]

I haven't read all of the pages through this thread, but I'm going to do i think it's marvellous to have on here. I've suffered from depression as a teenager and it gradually grew worse as I got older. I suffered from panic attacks and agoraphobia. It came to a head seven years ago. I lost both parents and I deteriorated really quickly, I lost several stone in a couple of months and I started to hear voices.
I was sectioned under the mental health act and spent six years in Hospital. It's done me the world of good. I was discharged last year and I'm living in my own flat and things are going well, I have a social worker and support workers who see me regularly but I'm independent again and I can also manage to get out which is something I massively struggled with in the past.

Of course I still suffer with depression and also schizophrenia, I don't think they will ever go away fully, but it's just about reducing the symptoms so we can manage each day.

My love for the blues still remains the same, however I don't get that joy and start jumping up and down when we score no more. I hope to one day get them feelings back, I truly miss that feeling.
The most important thing we can do is talk, talk about how we are feeling and if we're feeling crap remember tomorrow is another day we don't know what that will bring, hopefully a better day

 

[moyeslovechild]

My g struggles with her mental health and one thing I've noticed is, well, she doesn't really have any friends. She's always a little envious of me that I was able to keep all my friends from school

She does try to do things outside of work (although she hasn't been able to now because of Covid), with Spanish class and other things. Just you know how difficult it is to really make that sort of bond you have with old friends. I think even more so for women.

I'm not really saying this for advice , just whats on my mind

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

Made redundant about a month ago and now my relationship is breaking up. Coping by eating junk food and sleeping which isn’t very healthy.

 

[DannyEvo]

Celebrated my 30th birthday this weekend and had a four day bender.
After ale anxiety is awful and I’ll be giving the booze a break for a while.

 

[larbert toffee]

Made redundant about a month ago and now my relationship is breaking up. Coping by eating junk food and sleeping which isn’t very healthy.

At least you're aware what you're doing isn't the best for you at the moment, I now it can be difficult at the moment but don't let your standards slip, have pride and make sure you look after yourself.
Try and confront your relationship problems if you want it to work, if not then end it so it's one less problem to deal with whilst job searching.
Good luck with things WB I'm sure there will soon be a turn in your fortunes of you can confront them and deal with them.

 

[Brett Angell Delight]

Made redundant about a month ago and now my relationship is breaking up. Coping by eating junk food and sleeping which isn’t very healthy.

That's a rough few weeks, mate, I'm sorry to hear it.

Comfort eating and sleeping are defo my go-to coping mechanisms when I feel depressed, too. It is our way of taking control of something - Even more understandable in your case as it seems like things are happening which weren't - at least entirely - your choice.

As always with anything that's good for you, it is far easier said than done, but keep telling yourself to control the controllables; instead of choosing to sleep for longer - control it by setting (and sticking to) an alarm. Get out for walks and do whatever exercise you can to keep those endorphins flowing.

It hasn't all got to be exercise, either - Compile a list of movies you wanted to watch but haven't got round to, or loved so much you want to watch again. A bit of escapism and something that puts a positive spin on your break between jobs, though I am sure it'll be a brief one.

As for your relationship, I can't put it any better than @larbert toffee has.

I really hope things start to look up for you soon, mate.

 

[Tipp blue]

I hope your experiment is going well, Tipp Blue. Sometimes it is important to give oneself such a break so one can recharge and achieve some mental well-being.

I'm back and feeling good.. I got @roydo to ban me from here for 2 weeks which was a sensible thing to do, as it was one of the sites that had me checking on it quite often then I'd drift to other sites and waste loads of time on line.. I likley won't be as active on here as I was but if I drift back to old habits I'll be asking for another break.

 

[Sassy Colombian]

I'm back and feeling good.. I got @roydo to ban me from here for 2 weeks which was a sensible thing to do, as it was one of the sites that had me checking on it quite often then I'd drift to other sites and waste loads of time on line.. I likley won't be as active on here as I was but if I drift back to old habits I'll be asking for another break.

That’s great to hear, hopefully this good feeling stays with you and as life slowly comes back to normal you will start feeling even better. I never thought I would say this but how nice that Roydo banned you sometimes such forceful actions make one reconsider old habits.

Glad to have you back @Tipp blue I already gotten a few laughs this evening thanks to you!

 

[JammyP]

Speedo Mick:
"Talk, reach out, ask for help. Don't suffer alone"
Still a hero

Search BBC News for "Speedo Mick tells of lockdown depression battle" [Can't get link to work]

Speedo Mick tells of lockdown depression battle

Mick Cullen walked from Land's End to John o' Groats raising hundreds of thousands of pounds for charity.
But when the pandemic struck he found himself facing a new battle. He spoke to BBC Breakfast about seeking help for depression during lockdown.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

At least you're aware what you're doing isn't the best for you at the moment, I now it can be difficult at the moment but don't let your standards slip, have pride and make sure you look after yourself.
Try and confront your relationship problems if you want it to work, if not then end it so it's one less problem to deal with whilst job searching.
Good luck with things WB I'm sure there will soon be a turn in your fortunes of you can confront them and deal with them.

Thanks mate, really appreciated. I’ve pulled myself out of the hole a bit as of today. Was in a similar (but worse) situation to this only a year or so ago so I know I can bounce back but it’s exhausting. Hoping to find a bit of stability in the years ahead.

 

[Woolverhampton_Blue]

That's a rough few weeks, mate, I'm sorry to hear it.

Comfort eating and sleeping are defo my go-to coping mechanisms when I feel depressed, too. It is our way of taking control of something - Even more understandable in your case as it seems like things are happening which weren't - at least entirely - your choice.

As always with anything that's good for you, it is far easier said than done, but keep telling yourself to control the controllables; instead of choosing to sleep for longer - control it by setting (and sticking to) an alarm. Get out for walks and do whatever exercise you can to keep those endorphins flowing.

It hasn't all got to be exercise, either - Compile a list of movies you wanted to watch but haven't got round to, or loved so much you want to watch again. A bit of escapism and something that puts a positive spin on your break between jobs, though I am sure it'll be a brief one.

As for your relationship, I can't put it any better than @larbert toffee has.

I really hope things start to look up for you soon, mate.

In the past I’ve really struggled with substance abuse so as unhealthy as junk food and oversleeping is it could definitely be worse.

Managed to get to the gym today and been watching some Netflix. Reading is my main thing but when I’m low it’s hard - hoping to get going again in the next few days.

Thanks for the response mate. This site is great in general but in particular this thread is a godsend at times. Just being able to type out how you’re feeling or what you’re going through makes a big difference, and a few friendly voices makes all the difference.