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We have received an ‘End of Life’ care form from the doctors basically asking where Kay should pass away, home, care home, hospital etc, resuscitation if required etc etc.I’ve tried to protect my other three children, Adam has already read the form, but felt I had to update the other three on this next stage. It really brings it home to you, I intend to say we will continue to care for Kay at home unless she becomes really ill, then it will be hospital….
 
peteblue said:
We have received an ‘End of Life’ care form from the doctors basically asking where Kay should pass away, home, care home, hospital etc, resuscitation if required etc etc.I’ve tried to protect my other three children, Adam has already read the form, but felt I had to update the other three on this next stage. It really brings it home to you, I intend to say we will continue to care for Kay at home unless she becomes really ill, then it will be hospital….
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Oh my word Pete ,it must be the worst feeling ever .Rest assured Kay knows what you are doing for her and thanks you from the bottom of her heart .She cannot say it so I will " I love you Pete and thank you for all you have done for me ,I will love you forever ,Kay "
I have no idea what you feel at this moment Pete but I am here for a chat and I am sure the kids would want to be updated as it is their lovely Mother .
I support you keeping Kay at home as you know Kay best and you have done so well for Kay until now and I am sure for her remaining time with you .
It breaks my heart typing this Pete as I feel I know you quite well and how heartbreaking this will be for you .Stay strong that man .All our best A & B
 

peteblue said:
We have received an ‘End of Life’ care form from the doctors basically asking where Kay should pass away, home, care home, hospital etc, resuscitation if required etc etc.I’ve tried to protect my other three children, Adam has already read the form, but felt I had to update the other three on this next stage. It really brings it home to you, I intend to say we will continue to care for Kay at home unless she becomes really ill, then it will be hospital….
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Ah Pete this must be so hard for you. Hopefully it is just the Administrators getting their paperwork in order rather than any medical decision re necessity at this time.
 
peteblue said:
We have received an ‘End of Life’ care form from the doctors basically asking where Kay should pass away, home, care home, hospital etc, resuscitation if required etc etc.I’ve tried to protect my other three children, Adam has already read the form, but felt I had to update the other three on this next stage. It really brings it home to you, I intend to say we will continue to care for Kay at home unless she becomes really ill, then it will be hospital….
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So sorry to read that Pete.

I had the same very difficult conversation with the medics about the decision not to resuscitate mum and given the resultant form.

To be frank the conversation was , I thought, rushed and even I felt a bit pressurised but when I reflected on it later I do believe that it was the right decision for mum.

However I remain concerned that the way these decisions are arrived could be achieved in a more humane holistic way.

Best of luck mate.
 

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